Most women will want for a man what he doesn't want for himself. I call this syndrome "maternal dysfunction," and many women suffer from it. It's natural for women to be strategic in planning a relationship, but in doing this, most women are too naive. They often end up giving men the very map they need to control the relationship to their own benefit...
We as individuals often wear a mask that can be so heavy, that the need and desire for our true colors to be exposed can turn into something drastic and unkind. It takes more energy to not be yourself than it does to be who you are... Here's what you had to say: Tamika commented via Facebook: "I remain my own person, regardless of the situation." Ayo wrote via Facebook: "I follow my intuition and work from the inside out."
"Successful marriages are based on people fixing themselves before they try to fix others," says ESSENCE.com blogger Nicholas "Sixx" King. And it's not an easy task to look at one's flaws and acknowledge that you are the cause of your problems. Find out how "Sixx" made the journey from being a single guy to successful dad, friend, brother and son... For more from "Giving Love a Chance" by Nicholas "Sixx" King, click here. Related stories: Happily Married Black Folks, Stand Up Balancing Act: I Married a Blue Collar GuyCommentary: What To Look For In a Man
Love between two individuals should be as effortless as scratching your head or opening a door, but in life there will be things outside of that love you have for each other that will obstruct and sometime confine what should be a simple effort. When this happens usually you will have to work harder at loving each other.