Last week the web was on fire after a survey on marriage and family was released. The survey, which was conducted by the Pew Research Center and Time Magazine, was based on interviews with 2,691 adults done by cell phone or landline during the month of October. An Associated Press article that was picked up nationwide blasted, "4 Out of 10 Americans Say Marriage Is Obsolete." Not only am I against the stance that marriage is becoming obsolete, but also I believe that marriage is more necessary than ever, especially in our minority communities...
The list of Black celebrities who have recently jumped the broom reads like a guest list for the BET Awards. Martin Lawrence and longtime girlfriend Shamicka Gibbs, Paul Pierce and Julie Landrum, Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz, T.I. and Tiny, as well as LaLa Vasquez and Carmelo Anthony all got married this summer. What does this rash of weddings mean to common folks from Charlotte to Compton? Well, maybe nothing and maybe everything all at once... Here's what you had to say: Cassandra commented via Facebook: "I'm a huge fan of T.I. and Tiny's love story." Katina wrote via Facebook: "I am happy for any and all Black couples who have found true love and decide to marry, whether they are celebrities or not."
There are a wide spectrum of experiences when it comes to being a stepparent. Blending a family can be so natural that it's an afterthought or so disruptive that it can tear a marriage apart so it should not be taken lightly. As you all know, Ronnie had two kids when we got married. So I've got a daughter that has known me as daddy for as long as she can remember and a son that's been fighting the idea of having 1 more person that holds him accountable from jump street. Below are five things that I've seen and learned through my journey and the journey of those around me from a stepparents point of view.
I recently sat down and spoke with several couples who professed their love. I'm not talking about some sappy Valentine's card or a dozen silk roses. I'm talking real dialogue...guards down, unashamed, unabashed true feelings. Each conversation started like this: "My husbandwifemarriage saved me from..." That dot dot dot is what was truly amazing... Read more:What Does "Wifey" Mean To You?For more "Black And Married With Kids" stories, click here.