Sanaa Lathan is devoted to creating her own Nappily Ever After, and she doesn’t need a husband to do it, she said.
The actress told journalist Taylor Rooks at this year’s CultureCon, held last weekend inside Brooklyn’s Duggal Greenhouse, why she’s prioritizing investing in herself rather than finding a partner.
“There is this weird obsession with Black women [to] marry,” stated Rooks.
Lathan replied, “We read all these fairy tales—Snow White, Cinderella—…[and] they’re being chosen by a man. That’s when you win when you are chosen by a man. That’s not the truth!”
She declared, “I’ma choose me first.”
“You see how many relationships aren’t working,” Lathan continued. “The divorce rate is—I don’t know—it has got to be over 50 percent. So I wouldn’t invest in something with less than 50 percent. That’s more than half of failure.”
While the star isn’t preoccupied with walking down the aisle, Lathan hasn’t ruled out relationships altogether. In fact, she believes that loving herself first will bring her a better quality partner.
“I do believe in love and I want that for myself, but right now I’m focused on loving myself and the truth is when you start loving yourself, you attract a better quality of situation,” Lathan detailed. “I want somebody who wants me shining; who is not scared of that; who will be there after the days over and actually cares about what’s going on in my life. And I want to do the same for someone.”
