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Ask Dr. Sherry: 'My Husband Sleeps On Our Couch And Refuses To Have Sex With Me. Help!'

You’ve seen celebrity clinical psychologist Dr. Sherry Blake, author of The Single Married Woman: True Stories of Why Women Feel Alone in Their Marriages keep the Braxton sisters calm on the hit show, Braxton Family Values. Now it’s your turn to sit in her chair…

Hi Dr. Sherry,

I am definitely feeling like a single married woman. My husband and I have been married for 2 year but it is almost like we are roommates. He doesn’t sleep in the bed with me because he would rather sleep on the sofa so we don’t have sex at all. 

I’ve talked to him about our marriage but he thinks everything is fine. I find myself wanting other men but I don’t pursue it because I don’t believe in adultery. He won’t spend time with me and when we did have sex, it was not fun. He has diabetes and I have to find other ways to satisfy myself my dreaming about my exes in order to get pleasure but I want passion and intimacy. Honestly, my love tank is on E!  I just can’t understand why a man would push his wife into the arms of another man when you know you’re not doing your part to make her happy. Please help!


Bored in her marriage

Hey sis,

You have definitely been a “Single Married Woman” but without any benefits. If your husband really believes that everything is fine with the marriage while he is sleeping on the sofa rather than in the bed with you and there is no sex, you have a major problem. The problem can’t be written off because he is a diabetic. You asked how could a man push his wife into another man’s arms. The answer is very easy. He can if he is already in the arms of another woman or man. That is a real possibility if his lack of affection and behavior changed after your marriage. You can not control his behaviors but can control how long you want to deal with them. I recommend that you seek marital therapy to discover the real issues that have him sleeping on the sofa and a lack of affection. If you want a roommate, do you need a husband?  –Dr. Sherry  

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