Boris Kodjoe: Single Women Should Stop Dating for ‘Potential'

"It's really all about the work that you do on yourself," Kodjoe says. "Because if I'm not ready to receive that person, I won't meet her." Check out the rest of his interview above.

ESSENCE.COM Nov, 30, 2016
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[BLANK_AUDIO] You know, when I was single, I had to ready myself to be able to attract the person that was supposed to be with me, right? So you have to do a lot of work when you're single in order to meet that person. A lot of people say, how do I meet my soul mate? How do I meet It's really all about the work that you do on yourself. Because if I'm not ready to receive that person, I won't meet her, or I will meet the wrong person that's attracted by all the crazy stuff that I've got going on. So I had to work on myself first. I had to figure out the patterns that I sort of developed in my relationships. And I had to come to terms with the responsibility I had in the relationships that. Failed and I have to sort of arrive at a point where I was confident and comfortable with who I was and where I was going. And at that point, I knew I was gonna meet her. And I did. The problem is that often Sometimes, women project all these things on these men, and it's not their fault. No, I understand that, yeah. Because a lot of women, they fall in love with the potential rather than the person. My brother says that all the time. He's like, you fall for the potential and not the reality. Yes. He says that all the time. You gotta be in love with the person that's standing in front of you right now. Are you listening? The person standing in front of you right now, not the potential, not what he could become. If he does certain things. When the person is standing in front of you right this minute, and if you're good with that, if you're comfortable with that, if you love that person, then it's gonna be successful. That's the best tip, I completely agree. And then the third is Married with Children, which is a whole different ball of wax. [SOUND] [BLANK_AUDIO]