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Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Another woman Hey Guys, My seven-year marriage has been a lie. This man damn near stalked me until I went out with him. He seemed to be everything a girl could ever want in a man. He was God-fearing, smart, funny, and handsome and had a great job. He is everyone’s best friend and his family and friends have the utmost respect for him. Two years ago my teenage daughter found a hidden camera in her bathroom. The bathroom she and her friends use. I confronted him and he said he didn’t know why he did it. We left the house and moved into some low-income housing. He helped support us while my daughter was in high school but when she went to college he stopped. I moved back to his house. I know I am a coward and I feel like a traitor as well. I have always been supported by a man and did not finish school. I am very unhappy and unable to trust him. I forgive, but not forget. Now the guest room is my room. He seems unhappy because I won’t sleep with him, but he insists that with God’s help we can heal our relationship. He uses his money to control me. I pray, and I pray, and I pray. I cannot find peace with this man. I dread starting over, but feel I have no choice. Steve, every morning I listen to you talk about how all things are possible with God. If you can find humor in this, please make me laugh. It was hard enough learning to live after my son died. I do not feel strong enough to deal with this for the rest of my life. I feel like I’m in a movie in his house, literally. He recently snooped all through my computer and e-mail. I feel like I have to get out of here. I don’t want to ruin his reputation. I don’t want to take him to the cleaners. I just want peace of mind. I thought that I could get past anything after going through the worst storm a parent can imagine. I’ve been back for a year with no progress. He has been to counseling and I have spoken with his therapist, who feels it is a control issue. I called the police initially, they told me that it is not illegal for one to have cameras in their own house and refused to even come and take a report. I feel physically ill over this situation. How do I get my life back?