Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Am I insecure? Dear Shirley and Steve, This is my third marriage and I feel like I found the one who is strong willed (slightly Alpha) that I can spend the rest of my life with. I do love her and we have been through so much together. We lost jobs, cars and houses. We have been broke for most of our three years together and our bad credit is the ultimate bad credit. I feel like she believes in me and knows we are on our way to the tip-top, but I feel like she has this itch to get away from me. She has made comments on several occasions that she does not get to go or do anything. I take comments like that personally because I’m the husband and I am supposed to make things happen. However it is hard when you have to start over again. Also, I have guy friends, but I never spend time with them. I am always wanting to spend my time with my wife. She has said that I smother her sometimes. I’m not always under her, but when you live together in a small place, seeing each other is hard to avoid. What can I do to break this feeling of insecurity or separation anxiety? I feel like I have to find something else to do outside my own home in order to save my marriage. Or why bother when I could find a woman that appreciates me being around and doesn’t have these itches to get away from our home? What do you suggest?
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