Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: He’s taking me for granted Dear Morning Crew, My husband and I will be married for two years in December, but we have been together for three years in September. We will be 21 in September. I have been pregnant for three years straight. I had twins in October 2008, but they passed away. I had London, who is 9 months old, in October 2009, and Landon will be here in November of 2010. I have had jobs while I was pregnant, but then I had many pregnancy complications, so my husband and I decided that I would not work due to its affects on my body. Well now that I am the “stay-at-home mom,” I feel very unappreciated. I am a praying and fighting wife, and I want the best for my family. I put my feelings aside to make everyone happy. My husband, on the other hand, is stubborn and feels that he is always right and has to have the last word. I have changed and scarified so much and I can never get a “thank you” or “I see you making progress babe and I like it.” I find myself always telling him thank you and how much I appreciate him and all that good stuff. He also gets paid every week and I cannot even get a movie date out of him. I do not ask for much, besides a little “me time” because I have my daughter all the time and I am six months pregnant. He gets to come in after work and leave right out and not come back for hours. I think he is cheating on me and that this marriage is not something that he wants. I love him dearly, but I do not know how much longer I can go with him over looking me and not showing me that he loves me. My parents think that I am too mature for him. He has stepped up and taken care of home, but it is only on his time. I am all out of answer. I have been praying like crazy and part of me feels that God has placed an answer right in front of me; I just do not want to believe it. Will it really take for me to leave him for him not to throw me on the back burner?
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