Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Open marriage Dear Shirley Strawberry and Steve, I am a successful, mature 24-year-old woman with a very opptimistic view on life. Some have used the words naiive to describe my personality. However I disagree. I am open to the idea of having an open — minus the introduction of other men — marriage. We have rules set in place: no men, no sleepovers no double takes, and we always protect ourselves. With all this said, is it naive of me to think that an open or sexually free relationship will work? I believe that it can, due to the fact that for some couples, it can be a fun and exciting experience. For some, it may bring a couple closer together or give them the sexually satisifying life that they both want and need. Help me to understand, if I am, what it is I am doing wrong for others to disagree so much so with the decisions I have and will continue to make. Personally I will not live my life based on others’ opinions, but I would like the opinion of a neutral, third (and maybe fourth) party. Thank you for all your comments and advice. Signed, Mzz. Choc-kolate
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