Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: I keep having sex too soon Hello Shirley and Steve, I am 21 years old and I have a major issue. You see I am very attractive and I tend to attract a lot of guys, but the problem is my relationships last for longer than six months! I am a very serious college student and I have a lot going for myself, but I think the problem is I always jump into bed too soon with the men. This has been going on for at least two years now and I know that I am young, but I am also very mature and I want a partner to go through life with. I read your book about the probation period and I took that into consideration, but I am a very honest person and when a guy tells me that he likes me and wants to get serious I believe him. So I let my guard down and I have sex with him and then everything goes down hill. I have considered being celibate, but that is really hard! I don’t think I’m promiscuous or anything because I tend to turn down guys daily but am I too trusting too soon? I don’t want to walk around like a bitter woman. I really need some help. I even tried talking to a counselor about this. Can you give a young sister some advice? I don’t want to marry my husband and one day have my past haunt me. Ugh, this is so frustrating!
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