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Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: My Lesbian Lover is Still in the Closet Hi Steve and Shirley, I am a 38-year-old woman who’s been in a relationship with another woman for the past year. This is not my first lesbian relationship, nor will it be my last. The problem is my lover thinks, in her warped sense of reality, that no one in her family, church or work knows she’s gay. Let me explain myself. My lover is 34. She has no children and has never has been married. She’s college-educated and has a very lucrative career. She hasn’t been seen out with a man in about six years — yeah six of them. She is very butch in her demeanor and doesn’t look feminine at all. The relationship has come to a boiling point. After being together with me for a year she still insists that she introduce me to her family as her “friend.” Like I tell her, I don’t sleep with my friends. In all other aspects of the relationship, she treats me great, but at times I know she over compensates because she can’t include me in all aspects of her life (i.e. her family). I’ve told her I can’t deal with this any longer and she keeps asking me to give her time. I know giving someone to much time doesn’t solve the problem. Steve, should I just walk away or keep waiting? To be honest, half my body, mind and soul are already out the door. Sincerely, Enough Is Enough