Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice.

Today’s topic: I Don’t Know What’s Real Anymore

Dear Steve and Shirley,

There are a lot of issues, but I will try my best to keep it short. I have been married for 20 years with children and have experienced throughout the years my husband cheating on me — sometimes with  two or three women at the same time — and also being very flirtatious with women. Engaging in inappropriate conversations, e-mails and meetings. When I have caught him, he gets emotional and says sorry and that he will change. I even have to deal with seeing some of these women in church. I do not want to go there anymore because it is hurtful and humiliating. He gets very religious and emotional about this and said that God is going to use him to mentor other men when he gets through this and he doesn’t want me to leave him. He said he is going to stop, but he has said this six times before. I don’t want to hurt anymore and I never get to get over the last issue because he keeps doing it. I told him we need counseling and he said that he wants to, but his work schedule won’t allow it. That God will heal him and he does not want this aired on the radio because he want my privacy. He is a minister. Can you email me with advice please? I would like Steve and Shirley to give me advice.

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