Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice.

Today’s topic: I’m Cheating with Married Men

Dear Steve & Shirley,

I’m a 58-year-old single woman that started dating this man, J., in high school. He married someone else because I left him for fighting me. I started back to dating him about three years ago, but he is married. I have started to date someone else who is also married. A few months ago I was out with the other married man, T., and the married man, J., got mad with me and stopped talking to me. Can you explain why, J., is upset with me? I never try to stop him from going home to his wife. Why should he get mad with me for dating someone else that I only see maybe every two or three month when he comes in from out of town?


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