"You can't make all of the people happy all of the time." I remind myself of that every day. I know we (especially women of color) walk around trying to convince ourselves that we "don't care what nobody thinks", but is that really true? If it were, we wouldn't spend so much time trying to perfect ourselves. I'm not saying that our desire to be better isn't self motivated, but there is a piece of each and every one of us that truly cares about what others think. Now, it may not be EVERY other, but some of them...
“You can’t make all of the people happy all of the time.” I remind myself of that every day. I know we (especially women of color) walk around trying to convince ourselves that we “don’t care what nobody thinks”, but is that really true? If it were, we wouldn’t spend so much time trying to perfect ourselves. I’m not saying that our desire to be better isn’t self motivated, but there is a piece of each and every one of us that truly cares about what others think. Now, it may not be EVERY other, but some of them…
I am really comfortable in my own skin and it is safe to say that some people hate me for it. PAUSE ~ Hi Hater!!! I wonder how they feel spending energy hating me; energy that could truly be spent doing something a little more productive. PLAY ~ I mean, personally, I have my own insecurities, but I am happy being me. ALL of me! Sure I’d like to drop a few pounds, but I. LOVE. ME! Always have; always will. I have failed at a few things and prospered with others. I’ve done a really great job and I’ve done okay. I’ve made some smile and I’ve made some really angry; I’ve even hurt a few feelings, but I’ve also loved and been really good to many. While I have experienced things that have shaken me to my core, I have NEVER been broken… and I never will. Ever!
With that, I want to instill in all of you the importance of self belief and strength. If you don’t believe in you, why would anyone else? If you can’t stand on your own and carry yourself, why should anyone else? Remember who you are, and if by chance you are not happy with “the man in the mirror,” make a change. Yesterday and today, some things occurred that really upset me and while the incidents did not break me, they did upset me. I could not place my finger on my feelings — there were many…
I was working and attempting to calm myself and refocus, I looked up at my vision board. And there was one of my favorite quotes; I hadn’t read in a while…
“Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. Give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. Live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.” Christian D. Larson
Keep going, people! I’m right there with you in the pursuit.
Sincerely… (So sincere with this…)
XO~
PSM
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