We attract what we put out. The old saying goes, to get a 10, you have to be a 10. This may be true, but what exactly does being a 10 mean?

To help answer this question, I first went to my favorite surveying sources (Twitter & Facebook) to find out who we perceive to be the ideal man. I’m sure this comes as no surprise: the runaway favorites were Idris Elba & Denzel Washington. As a matter of fact, on a scale from 1-10, with 10 being the ideal man, Idris and Denzel scored an average of 17 (off the charts).

What intrigues me most is not just how universal Idris & Denzel’s appeal is (I had responses from all over the globe), but what specifically are the traits so many people find attractive about them.  

To dig deeper to identify the traits, I once again turned to Twitter and Facebook. After hundreds of responses, these are the top reasons why so many people love Idris & Denzel — also making a great list of what women need to put out there if they want to attract someone just like them.