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Emotional Nudity: The Types of Women I Always Avoid

"Some women just make you wish you had magic zapping powers to shock them with two bolts of act right."
Emotional Nudity: The Types of Women I Always Avoid
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By Jai Stone · Updated October 28, 2020

For the past decade, I have been totally focused on creating a path to authentic joy and my friendships are a huge part of that. A good home girl can pick you up, break you down and rebuild you all inside 10 minutes, and there won’t be an ounce of love lost between you. Quality time with the wonderful women in my world just makes me key lime cupcake happy.
But, there’s not always Florida sunshine in the land of sisterhood. There are some women that just make you wish you had magic zapping powers so you can shock them with two bolts of “act right.” (C’mon, you know you’ve thought about it!)

Last year I met a young lady (let’s call her Ursula) at a networking event, and we hit it off just fine. We stayed connected and met for drinks a few times, but somehow our Girls Night Out always turned into her needing my “professional opinion” about something. By the second time this happened, I decided to set some boundaries with Ursula, and I informed her that all business discussions would have to be considered consulting and conducted during business hours. We both laughed it off and enjoyed our night. But that was the last time I ever saw her one-on-one.  She never made an attempt to hang out with me again. It turned out that she only pretended to be interested in getting to know me to pump me for advice. 

Sadly, this kind of thing isn’t new to me, and I’ve had to learn to notice the signs that pop up when a budding friendship is doomed, or even a seasoned one for that matter. When it becomes clear that a friendship is an epic fail, there is nothing left to do but cut the ties with hedge clippers and move on to greener gardens.

Here are a few types of women that I have learned to steer clear of:

Ursula User – The self centered taker that manipulates and maneuvers everyone and everything to only benefit herself.

Wendy Whiner – She always complains about her problems but never focuses on finding any solutions. Maybe I should introduce her to my Complaint Diet.

Gloria Gossip – I’m not much for gossip, I’ve always seen it as a total waste of time. I would much rather spend my time creating my ideal life. Besides, my mama always said, “A dog that will bring a bone, will also take a bone.” Translation: I will be on the gossip menu next!

Debbie Drama – No girl, I can’t come help you get the bat out of your guest room; that is what animal control is for! Miss Debbie is the prime example of a woman that will drain all your physical, emotional and financial energy if you let her. Excuse me, but my cape is reserved for real emergencies.

Leslie Liar – We all know a Leslie that lies about her knock-off shoes being the real deal and always exaggerates circumstances. If I have to work at deciphering truth or lies from her, its more effort than I plan to exert…next!

Sensitive Sally – You can’t offer Sally any real honesty because she takes it personally. You might have to break out the smelling salts if you tell her she has lint on her skirt. I love Sally – God knows I do – but I will slap her silly before I let her stress me out. (Sorry, I just felt a strong urge to pay homage to Sophia from The Color Purple). Anyhoo, y’all know I’m way too much of a realist to fool with Sally Sue.

La-La Land Lucy – Did I mention that I’m a realist? Sally and Lucy must have both missed that memo because they seem attracted to me like ants to a summer picnic. Lil Lucy is totally in love with her delusions of grandeur and unrealistic ideals.  My bad, but I didn’t agree to be your Fairy Godmother Lucy. Come on back to the real world girlfriend.

Now that I’ve shared a few of mine, do tell me what type of women you steer clear of.

Jai Stone

Jai Stone is a socialpreneur, author, syndicated blogger and the founder of the Emotional Nudity Lifestyle Brand. Jai writes about love, life and the pursuit of authentic joy. Follow her on Twitter @JaiStone or visit her blog.

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