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12 Surprising Findings From New Dating Studies

The Modern Day Matchmaker reveals jaw-dropping new stats about what men really want that will make you go “hmm.”

By Paul Carrick Brunson · April 30, 2013October 28, 2020
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These Numbers Don’t Lie

If you know me, you know I’m a data junkie! While I’ve been around numbers long enough to know they can be manipulated to suggest anything we want, I believe we can still learn a lot from research – especially when it comes to love. Here are 12 fascinating findings from recent studies that are sure to get you and your friends talking. 

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Teeth and Grammar Are Top Dating “Must-Haves”

Men and women disagree on many things when it comes to dating, but according to a recent survey conducted by MarketTools Inc. for Match.com, the sexes agree that teeth and grammar are the two most important “must-haves” when dating.

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1 in 4 Men Have Faked an Orgasm

In a sweeping new study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, 22 percent of U.S. males said they have faked an orgasm. Males in the 25 to 34 age range were nearly three times more likely to have faked an orgasm than those aged 18 to 24.

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Men Are As Likely As Women To Want Children

A new research study by Robin Hadley of Keele University suggests men are almost as likely as women to want children, and they feel more isolated, depressed, angry and sad than women if they don’t have them.

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People Who Believe TV Romances Are Less Likely to Commit

This recent study, which was published in Mass Communication and Society, found that the more an individual believes TV portrayals of romance, the less likely they are to be committed to their relationships. Source: Albion.edu and DatingAdvice.com

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Women With High Sex Drives Are More Selective

This study found women with high sex drives were much more selective about who they’d choose for a short-term relationship than women with low sex drives. By contrast, men with both high and low sex drives preferred attractive women, but those with high sex drives said they would also enter into short-term relationships with less attractive women.
Source: ScienceDirect.com and DatingAdvice.com

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Online Dating Sites Don’t Necessarily Help You Find Love

Researchers of this study note several online dating sites offer matching algorithms to help pair compatible individuals, but found little evidence to suggest matching algorithms actually predict compatibility. Source: SagePub.com and DatingAdvice.com

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Forty Percent of Women Have Experienced Exercise-Related Orgasms

Most women’s sexual pleasure, and nearly half of all gym-related orgasms, came from core-based exercises. (Especially those related to suspended leg lifts.) The vast majority of exercise-related orgasms came without the woman fantasizing while she worked out. Some women reported feeling embarrassed when they went to the gym due to the sexual pleasure they felt when working out. Source: LiveScience.com and DatingAdvice.com

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Men Are More Likely to Be Attracted to Unavailable Friends

Looking at the data, researchers found men (especially young men) are more likely to be attracted to their female friends, regardless of whether one or both of them are in a romantic relationship. Conversely, women in existing romantic relationships are less likely to find their male friends attractive. Source: Bleske-recheck.com and DatingAdvice.com

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Women Who Have Sex Early Are More Likely to Be Dissatisfied Later

This fascinating study found that women who entered into sexual relationships with their current partners quickly reported significantly lower levels of relationship satisfaction than those who waited somewhat longer before becoming sexually involved. Source: PHYS.org. and DatingAdvice.com

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A Man’s Gaze Determines How Sexually Adventurous He Is

Researcher Ken Guo, a psychologist at the University of Lincoln in the United Kingdom found men who were sexually uninhibited spent more time looking at the breasts and hips of the young women in the pictures than men who were more sexually inhibited, indicating you can determine, to a certain degree, how sexually adventurous a man is by how long he holds his gaze on a woman’s midsection. Source: Live Science and DatingAdvice.com

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Thirty Seven Percent of Men Think Women with Similar Faces are More Attractive

In this study, men were shown a selection of four photographs of new women, which included photos of women whose faces had been digitally manipulated to look more like the participating males. Thirty seven percent of the males rated the face looking the most like their own as the most attractive. The findings of this study correspond with the findings of similar studies, including a 2008 study determining men were likely to find a woman attractive if that woman resembled his mother and women were likely to find a man attractive if he resembled her father. Source: chacha.com and DatingAdvice.com

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Talk to Paul

Comments, concerns or questions about my advice? Tell me about it below! Paul Carrick Brunson is a 2013 NAACP Image Award nominee and a 2012 iDate Matchmaker & Relationship Coach Of The Year nominee. His bestselling book It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be) is in stores now. Contact him directly on Facebook or Twitter anytime or visit his website.

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