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The Spot-On Marriage Advice Ruby Dee Once Gave Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith

The Spot-On Marriage Advice Ruby Dee Once Gave Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith
Pascal Le Segretain
By Lauren Porter · Updated October 23, 2020

Will and Jada Pinkett Smith have been married for 20 years but, like most couples, they’ve had their ups and downs.

In a new, candid interview on Rap Radar Podcast with music journalists Elliott Wilson and Brian “B.Dot” Miller, the Academy award-winning actor and Grammy-winning rapper shared the greatest piece of advice he and the Jada ever received when it comes to love, the one thing the two no longer call themselves, and the joy he’s discovered in their union. 

“Ruby Dee died a few years ago. Her and [her late husband] Ozzie Davis had been together for 50 years. Me and Jada [were] struggling hard, so we went to go talk to Ruby Dee,” the Philadelphia born star began. “So Ruby turns to Jada and she says, ‘how long you known him?’ At the time it’d been 17 years so she said, ‘I’ve known him for 17 years.’ Ruby said, ’17 years? Shit, you don’t even know him yet.’ [Ruby] said, ‘just relax.’ And that was her whole advice, you don’t even know him yet. And it’s like the idea that [after] 17 years, you don’t even know him yet? That is so deeply true.”

Will and Jada met on the set of his sitcom series, The Fresh Prince of Bel Air, when she auditioned to play his love interest. Although she wasn’t cast in the role (which went to Nia Long), the two remained close, began dating and wed on New Years Eve 1999. 

Smith continued, “As much as marriage is a relationship commitment it really is a singular commitment to yourself that you were going to use your marriage to develop your self. Marriage demands that you be the best version of you or it ain’t gon work. Ruby really locked us into that space where Jada and I realized that we were on individual journeys. We were both trying to force a marriage when actually you know in terms of a seed and soil are they married? The seed is not married to the soil, it’s just growing together both doing what they were designed to do. Me and Jada sort of found ourselves into that space where we don’t even say we’re married anymore we refer to ourselves as life partners.

Together, the Smiths have two children, a son Jaden and daughter Willow as well as the 49-year-old’s son Trey from his previous marriage. 

Now having gotten over some of the rocky moments in their marriage, Smith said he’s never been more content, secure and at peace in life and love. 

“You get into that space when you realize you are literally with someone for the rest of your life,” he said. “There are no deal breakers, nothing she could do nothing ever, that would break our relationship. She has my support ’til death. And it feels so good to get to that space where you’re not complaining and worrying and demanding that a person be a certain thing to sort of satiate your ego deficiencies. You’re not demanding that somebody be a certain thing so you feel better about yourself.”

You can watch or listen to Will’s full interview on Rap Radar via Tidal. 

TOPICS:  Black Love Jada Pinkett Smith Will Smith
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