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Sexy New Year's Resolutions You'll Want to Keep

Put an end to sexual dissatisfaction in 2013 and aim to please yourself with these must-try resolutions!
By Charli Penn · Updated October 28, 2020
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I Will Know What I Want

When you’re not sure what you want out of a sexual relationship with a man, the tendency can be to hop from bed to bed while dating in search of an experience you don’t yet understand. That ends in 2013! Vow to know what you want and never settle unless you’re sure that starting up a sexual relationship will be as fulfilling for you as it is for him.

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I Will Wait Until I’m Ready

Sex is not a requirement for dating, and if the man you’re seeing disagrees, you shouldn’t be sleeping with him, period. This year, promise to wait until you’re ready to “go there” – no matter how long that might take! – and not to worry about his timeline. (Like, at all!)

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I Will Tell Him What I Want

We can’t tell you how many times women write in saying that they’re “not satisfied in bed.” They want things sexually that their partner hasn’t yet provided or that they feel he can’t do. It does take time to find your groove between the sheets, but if you’re going to stand a chance on getting it right, together, you both have to speak up about what is (and isn’t!) working for you. In 2013, tell him what you like, and be clear about what you don’t. It can only make things better.

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I Will Try New Things

Every woman has a bedroom wish list filled with all of the things she has always wanted to try but hasn’t. In 2013, it’s time to start checking off yours. Introduce a pleasure toy into the mix. Try a tricky position. Have sex somewhere unexpected. We don’t care what it is, as long as it’s safe and something that will leave you feeling exhilarated and fulfilled. You won’t know if it’s for you, unless you try. And, while you’re at it, ask him what makes his list, too.

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I Will Choose Partners Wisely

You already know this, but a reminder never hurts: Sex is very intimate and special, and your body should be cherished and respected at all times! Part of making this happen is being super selective about your sexual partners, always. Before sleeping with anyone in 2013, ask yourself: Will I regret this tomorrow? Is he really worth it? Is this what I want to do?  Your answers will guide you!

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I Will Not Forget the Romance

As much as you desire to be wooed and wowed in the bedroom, he does too. The next time you’re shopping for your home, consider picking up the items that will make it easier to insert a little more romance into your bedroom mojo. (Think: scented candles, fresh flowers, massage oils and aphrodisiac foods.)

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I Will Have More Fun In Bed

This year, vow to find fun new ways to introduce sex into your nightly routine with your boo. Whether that means dusting off that overpriced lingerie tucked inside the depths of your closet or trying something unexpected like role playing, just try to stay focused on the “wow” factor at home.

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