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What You Said: “Have You Ever Dated A Younger Man?”

What You Said: “Have You Ever Dated A Younger Man?”
By · Updated October 28, 2020
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Are You A “Cougar?”

After one reader’s letter to Dr. Sherry received an overwhelmingly divided response, we asked you to reveal why you’re for or against dating a PYT. Here’s what you had to say!

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Bad Idea!

“Yes I have [dated a younger man] and it started off good but ended up in a disaster. I don’t think I will ever do it again.” – Lawana

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Age and Maturity Are Two Different Things

“Yes, I actually would prefer guys around my own age, but for years I’ve been dating guys younger — some just a few years, and others many years younger. But, I don’t classify myself as a cougar because they approached me! If their mature enough to handle it, well, ya’ll know the rest.” – Cora

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Why Not?

“Yes I do! My friend is 27 and I’ve been seeing him since he was 23. He came on to me! I’m 40 something.” – Carol

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The Sex Is Worth It

“Cougar and proud of it! Go for it! The sex will makeup for the age difference and you can always pay them to go away!” – Laurel

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Some Women Just Attract Younger Men

“I prefer older as well, but only younger ones approach me.” – Dawanda

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You Could Be His Mama

“Yes I have, but the daunting question becomes, ‘How old is your Mama?’ No matter how cute he is, it’s not cute when you are older than his mother. I’m just saying.” – Leslie

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Love Is Love

“Be with someone you love — that’s it. The spirit has no age. All these rules and regulations some of you impose on yourselves are what makes you unhappy.” – Chérie

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Too Much Drama

“I’ve always attracted younger men and it was fun, but it was never serious. I married older when the time came. The younger men I knew were jealous and insecure, believe it not.” – Tanya

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You’ll Regret It

“This two shall past! You’ll get tired of making baby bottles and changing diapers every night. Cougars serve and protect. You better leave that damn job for the police! (smelling like Similac).”— Amandra

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Young Guys Are More Fun

“I am 100 percent cougar. I only attract younger men. I am 44-years-old, my man is 31-years-old and he definitely holds it down! We have been together four years and we’re getting married. Men my age have their set ways and don’t like change or fun!” – Maribel

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Go For It!

“I’ve been dating younger men since I was 25. Younger men are more adventurous and willing to try something new. Older men are too stuck in their ways and boring!” – Jacqueline

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They’re Still Little Boys

“Yes it sucks, it’s like raising another child.” — Dianne

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It’s Just Wrong

“I don’t get it, my son is 22 and he better not bring someone my age, 38, to my house. Older women have too many issues to deal with.” — Keke

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They Have Mommy Issues

“Can you say mommy issues? Good luck with that! I say older.” – Theresia

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Men Are Men

“Both younger and older men can be a challenge. Some of the older ones try to be your dad and the younger ones want you to be their mom. I have one dad and one son. I don’t need the others right now.” — Erika

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Only If He Behaves Like A Real Man

“I always attract younger men. I take it as a compliment. I like dating men of all ages, as long as he’s respectful, honest and not frugal.” – Kerry-Ann

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Best Boyfriends Ever

“Yes, he was 35 and I was 41. I was totally opposed to it at first, but from day one, he came correct like a real mature man. More mature than his friends in there 40s. Best boyfriend I ever had!” – Tammy

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They’re Not On Your Level

“I’ve seen younger men that I would like to date, but then they speak and my head hurts.” — Donette

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