As relationship coaches and professional matchmakers, we meet so many awesome women (and men) who are looking for true love. As you can imagine, each person has their own unique personality and often they would assume that they should be looking for someone EXACTLY like them, i.e. “well I love to run so he should be a runner” or “I really enjoy visiting museums and art shows so he should love the arts too.” But is that really the case? What kind of single are you and what does that say about the partner you’re in search of? In our experience, successful matches are not exactly the same, which makes the relationship even more interesting.
Here are a few common personalities and some attributes that complement them best. Get ready to take notes, ladies. We’ve got your back on this one!
Someone who is a hard worker and may have climbed the corporate ladder over time is a good fit. His peers and family respect him. He may or may not have gone to a top school but he is intelligent and has loads of common sense. This man should also be fun because more likely, you could use some fun in your life. He would force you to relax and smell the roses and add some spontaneity in your life.
You are go a with the flow type of woman, non-judgmental, and usually a risk taker. You will usually try anything once and if you like it, you may try it again. People usually feel comfortable talking to you and sharing their inner darkest secrets, as they feel safe. Usually this woman is confidant in herself and liked by many because she can find the positives in just about anything or anyone.
You usually move at a turtle’s pace and people have to earn your trust over a period of time. The issue with this is, men feel like you have a magnifying glass on them and any little thing they do, they will be punished or reprimanded. You are usually holding onto experiences that happened in past relationships and often times, you don’t allow the new man a clean canvas.
For this type of woman we would suggest a man who has the right mix of persistence and patience. Continue to work on yourself and show him what you’ve done to overcome your fears. Usually a man that is in a Non Profit or Care Giving role is a good match. He would most likely coach little league, maybe the social work profession or spend his free time volunteering and giving back. He’s familiar with being reassuring and has no problem reminding you he’s not that guy.
You are someone who is very friendly with the fellas and trust quickly. You might be quickly labeled as loose or even the homegirl friend. But you feel justified because your needs come first and you’re thinking, “what the heck, you only live once.”
You need a man whose is nonjudgmental, confident, and doesn’t care at all what others think. He’s comfortable in his decision-making and he has a desire to flip from a leadership role at work to extremely laid back after 5 and on weekends. A woman who is too stuffy won’t work for him at all.
So which woman are you? Have you opened your mind a bit more than before? We certainly hope this helps dispel any preconceived notions of what type of man you think you many want vs. the type of man you need. Keep in mind, he doesn’t have to be exactly like you to produce a healthy, happy relationship. Now that you have his description, go back and think of any great guys you may have overlooked who might be right under your nose. If so, call him up and say hello! You can also start new conversations with potential great matches and steer the conversations to uncover if he fits the mold! As always, let us know how it goes!
Here’s to LOVE!
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