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We've Been There, Girl: 8 Mistakes Most Women Have Made In Love

When Chris Brown’s ex Karrueche Tran asked Iyanla Vanzant for help on Fix My Life, she had to own up to her own poor choices in love. Admit it, you’ve made some too. Do any of these sound a little too close to home?

By Charli Penn · Updated October 27, 2020
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Karrueche Tran and Chris Brown

When Chris Brown’s ex Karrueche Tran asked Iyanla Vanzant for help on Fix My Life, things got pretty emotional: Although she has been through her share of public heartbreak, Tran had to own up to her own poor choices in love. Admit it, you’ve made some too. Do any of these sound a little too close to home?

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We think we can change a man.

Your grandma had it right: When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

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We don’t trust our guts.

If dating a man doesn’t feel right, than he’s the wrong one for you.

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We play past mistakes on repeat.

We must remember, only new behaviors will yield new results. If you don’t want to repeat history, move on.

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We allow ourselves to be silenced.

What you want and need to be happy always matters. It’s easy to find ourselves feeling silenced in a rocky relationship because we’re trying to keep the peace. Speak up, sisters!

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We revisit the ex files.

If the relationship failed once before, it is most likely for a reason. Trying to rebuild a new love on an old, shaky foundation will only lead to things falling apart in the future.

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We try to buy a man’s love.

Spoiling a man with gifts and favors isn’t the way to earn his love in return. A real man knows who

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We don’t command respect.

First impressions matter. When we don’t command respect from our partner day one, we seldom ever get as much of it as we deserve moving forward. Yet, we keep hoping for more and settling for less.

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We settle…and settle!

If he is really your soul mate, you shouldn’t have to make excuses for what he’s lacking or cover for him when his behavior is disappointing. Sometimes we ignore our minds and lead with our hearts and the result is often heartbreak.

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