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Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He's Marriage Material

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He's Marriage Material
By · Updated October 28, 2020
01
Is He Marriage Material?

If you’re single, here are 24 important questions to ask yourself when considering potential dates. If you’re in a relationship, these are great questions to discuss with your partner. You don’t have to be in complete agreement on each of these answers but you do need to be able to compromise if there are differences – if you can successfully do that, I say you have someone who is marriage material.

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
02
Family

Do you want children? If so, just one or a small tribe like Bob Marley?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
03
Family

How do you prefer to spend the holidays? Chillin’ on the beach or doing something adventurous like hunting exotic animals with the Trump boys?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
04
Family

How do you feel about relatives visiting? Are you for it or would you rather get a colonic?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
05
Fiscal

When do you want to retire? Early at 40 or do you want to work to the grave?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
06
Fiscal

Do you invest conservatively or are you an aggressive “Bernie Madoff-return-wanting” somebody?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
07
Fiscal

What kind of lifestyle materially do you hope to achieve? Is driving a used Nissan Altima sufficient or must you have the latest Range Rover?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
08
Health and Wellness

Do you want to compete in couples marathons or is channel surfing on the couch the most active you need to be?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
09
Health and Wellness

Is smoking a definitive no or do you let loose on 4/20?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
10
Health and Wellness

What is your chicken preference? Not on the plate, baked, or double fried in lard?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
11
Intimacy

Do you realize there is a difference between intimacy and sex?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
12
Intimacy

How do you rate on the freak-o-meter? Are Zane books too tame or do you blush reading them?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
13
Intimacy

How frequent do you want sex? Daily like a good multivitamin or quarterly like an earnings report?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
14
Spirituality

Is it critical for you both to share the same religion and practice in the same manner? If so, why?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
15
Spirituality

What is the core code of conduct you live your life by? Do the Notorious BIG’s ’10 Crack Commandments’ suffice or do you live by something deeper?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
16
Spirituality

How do you see religious or spiritual beliefs being integrated with raising children?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
17
Leisure

How much private time do you need?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
18
Leisure

What pace do you want to live? Would a leisurely Dave Chappelle pace work or do you need to be on the move more frequently than Diddy?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
19
Leisure

Are weekends and vacations code for ‘more time to work’ or are they opportunities to breakaway from the office?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
20
Career

Are you in a job or in a career? Do you want a job or career?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
21
Career

Are you willing to relocate for you career or are you permanently home in the city you live?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
22
Career

Will your job/career define who you are or just pay the bills?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
23
Life-Long Learning

What dreams do you have around achievement? Are you interested in training to belly dance in Istanbul so you can open your own school or something less ambitious?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
24
Life-Long Learning

Are you interested in getting seven PhD’s or is that bachelors of science you have adequate?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
25
Life-Long Learning

What values around academics and achievement do you feel most important to teach your children?

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
26
Let’s Talk

Need more dating advice? I’m here for you. Find me on Twitter or Facebook any time.

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He’s Marriage Material
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