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Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He's Marriage Material

Modern Day Matchmaker: 24 Questions to Ask to See If He's Marriage Material
By · April 29, 2012October 28, 2020
01
Is He Marriage Material?

If you’re single, here are 24 important questions to ask yourself when considering potential dates. If you’re in a relationship, these are great questions to discuss with your partner. You don’t have to be in complete agreement on each of these answers but you do need to be able to compromise if there are differences – if you can successfully do that, I say you have someone who is marriage material.

02
Family

Do you want children? If so, just one or a small tribe like Bob Marley?

03
Family

How do you prefer to spend the holidays? Chillin’ on the beach or doing something adventurous like hunting exotic animals with the Trump boys?

04
Family

How do you feel about relatives visiting? Are you for it or would you rather get a colonic?

05
Fiscal

When do you want to retire? Early at 40 or do you want to work to the grave?

06
Fiscal

Do you invest conservatively or are you an aggressive “Bernie Madoff-return-wanting” somebody?

07
Fiscal

What kind of lifestyle materially do you hope to achieve? Is driving a used Nissan Altima sufficient or must you have the latest Range Rover?

08
Health and Wellness

Do you want to compete in couples marathons or is channel surfing on the couch the most active you need to be?

09
Health and Wellness

Is smoking a definitive no or do you let loose on 4/20?

10
Health and Wellness

What is your chicken preference? Not on the plate, baked, or double fried in lard?

11
Intimacy

Do you realize there is a difference between intimacy and sex?

12
Intimacy

How do you rate on the freak-o-meter? Are Zane books too tame or do you blush reading them?

13
Intimacy

How frequent do you want sex? Daily like a good multivitamin or quarterly like an earnings report?

14
Spirituality

Is it critical for you both to share the same religion and practice in the same manner? If so, why?

15
Spirituality

What is the core code of conduct you live your life by? Do the Notorious BIG’s ’10 Crack Commandments’ suffice or do you live by something deeper?

16
Spirituality

How do you see religious or spiritual beliefs being integrated with raising children?

17
Leisure

How much private time do you need?

18
Leisure

What pace do you want to live? Would a leisurely Dave Chappelle pace work or do you need to be on the move more frequently than Diddy?

19
Leisure

Are weekends and vacations code for ‘more time to work’ or are they opportunities to breakaway from the office?

20
Career

Are you in a job or in a career? Do you want a job or career?

21
Career

Are you willing to relocate for you career or are you permanently home in the city you live?

22
Career

Will your job/career define who you are or just pay the bills?

23
Life-Long Learning

What dreams do you have around achievement? Are you interested in training to belly dance in Istanbul so you can open your own school or something less ambitious?

24
Life-Long Learning

Are you interested in getting seven PhD’s or is that bachelors of science you have adequate?

25
Life-Long Learning

What values around academics and achievement do you feel most important to teach your children?

26
Let’s Talk

Need more dating advice? I’m here for you. Find me on Twitter or Facebook any time.

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