ESSENCE needs your help. We are working on an upcoming story about men and we need your insight. Please help us by completing our two polls: One for you, one for the man in your life. The poll is on dating, sex, and more. Please pass this along to your girlfriends and all the men you can (brothers, co-workers,etc.). The poll is quick and easy — and anonymous. Ladies: Take our poll! Men: Take our poll!