I recently celebrated a birthday, and along with the fun and festivities came a pivotal time of reflection. As I began to think about the past year and my life as a whole — measuring where I am to where I want to be — I had an epiphany of sorts. Or, maybe I just finally noticed the obvious. For the past ten years, I have been a serial dater. Dates are a tricky thing, especially first dates. They can be nerve wrecking, leaving men and women alike full of anxiety and confusion as they try to formulate a way of making a good first impression. I lived for these moments.
The prospect and challenge of meeting someone new, and seeing where it could lead, was an exhilarating feeling that often fueled my pursuit of several women simultaneously. Those many conversations, over coffee, ice cream, vodka etc. have had a hand in shaping who I now am. In essence, ten years of experience coupled with extensive research on relationships has helped me to release a book and to become an expert on the subject.
I guess it was true when they said working with the negatives could make for better pictures… well, actually Drake said that, but it works for the point I am making, right? Though I am currently in a loving and committed relationship, it is my past that has helped teach me that how a woman interacts with a man on the first date can determine how he perceives and ultimately treats her for the remainder of the relationship — however long it may be. With that said, I present to you my list of the ten first date mistakes I’m certain a man will judge you for.