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10 Expert Approved Ways to Attract Love This Valentine’s Day

Just in time for V-Day, 10 dating gurus dish on how singles can rock the season of love.
By Charreah K. Jackson · Updated October 28, 2020
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Get In the Spirit

“Valentine’s Day is the best time of year to sharpen your dating skills and jump back on to the saddle. Some believe that Valentine’s Day is all about couples, but day brings out some of the very best singles and singles events of the year. Explore community social calendars like GuestofaGuest.com and MeetUp.com for pre-V-day activities.” – Jasmine Diaz, author and matchmaker at the Shawn Mackenzi Agency

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Use Body Language

“Walk as if you’re smelling the roses, instead of walking like you’re running late on Judgement Day. Keep your head on a swivel and be aware of the wonderful people walking right next to you. Make eye contact and nod or smile but only for a southern second; not a New York minute. Be polite to anyone bold enough to approach you and look beyond their stat sheet.” – Tony Gaskins, author and relationship coach

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Spread the Love

“Realize that you already have a perfect date! YOU! Don’t force a situation. Take this opportunity to do something that you love to do. Friends trying to fix you up at the last minute on a blind date should wait for another time. Instead pamper yourself or host a girl’s night and exchange ‘Secret Valentine’ gifts.” – Moll Anderson, romance expert and author

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Law of Attraction

“Perform a random act of kindness everyday. Then you won’t have to search for love—you will be love! We attract who and what we are. While it may seem like coincidence that your love life will suddenly be on quite a roll, it will be the result of the changes in you.” – Dr. Sam Von Reiche, Psychologist and Certified Professional Coach

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Keyboard Cupid

“Take advantage of the Wink Wide Web. There are literally hundreds of matches at your fingertips when you date online. Within moments you can find great guys and gals with similar interests so put up a profile and start eFlirting.” – Laurie Davis, author and founder of eFlirt Expert

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Reach Out and Touch

“Expand your network. In business, we often use networking to achieve our professional goals. These same tools can be used to find a mate. Contact people who are well-connected and tap into your friendships to get closer to meeting someone special. People love to play matchmaker almost as much as I do.” – Jasmine Diaz, author and matchmaker at the Shawn Mackenzi Agency

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Take Your Time

“Patience is a virtue in dating and finding love. If you rush it you will ruin it. Don’t give too much too fast or you’ll regret it when they’re gone. You’re worth the wait, so pace yourself and let love happen naturally.” – Tony Gaskins, Author and Relationship Coach

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Special Delivery

“You are the most important person that will ever step into your home or life. Don’t wait for someone to send you flowers. Spoil yourself. When you’re picking up groceries make sure to grab a dozen of your favorite flowers. It’s a must-have right after bread and milk.” – Moll Anderson, romance expert and author

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A Vision of Love

“Make a list of the characteristics you value for a lifelong partner — focusing on inner qualities like loyalty, which will make a relationship last. Envision that person a few minutes every day, including the excitement you will feel when you meet. Do this exercise for 60 days. You will be inspired about meeting your match and surprised by the results, as we get what we focus on subconsciously.” – Dr. Sam Von Reiche, Psychologist and Certified Professional Coach

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Make Your Move

“All too often I notice single ladies take a back seat in their love lives because they want the guy to ‘make the first move’ or ‘be the one to call/text.’ But in many cases these are excuses to avoid really putting yourself out there. Yes, chivalry exists, but you need to show someone you’re interested, too — that’s most important when you’re looking for love.” – Laurie Davis, author and founder of eFlirt Expert

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