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The Bachelorette's Rachel Lindsay Reveals Why She Chose Bryan Abasolo

“Going through it, I felt Bryan was perfect for me. Obviously nobody’s perfect — but perfect for me."
The Bachelorette’s Rachel Lindsay Reveals Why She Chose Bryan Abasolo
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By Christina Dugan · Updated October 26, 2020
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This article originially appeared on people.com. The Bachelorette EXCLUSIVE! Rachel Lindsay opens up about how she knew Bryan Abasolo was “the one” despite her love for Peter Kraus.  Rachel Lindsay can’t imagine life without her fiancé, Bryan Abasolo. In this week’s issue, the 32-year-old attorney from Dallas opens up about why she chose the Miami-based chiropractor and how it wasn’t a difficult choice. “At the end, it was not tough for me,” Lindsay says of making her final decision. “Going through it, I felt Bryan was perfect for me. Obviously nobody’s perfect — but perfect for me. I still was running away from it. So there were times when I thought, ‘Okay, maybe it’s not him, maybe it’s someone else.’ I can’t say that the whole way through I was like, ‘Yes, it’s definitely Bryan,’ but I can definitely say that in the back of my mind, ‘I really thought it was you.’ ” She adds, “I really was scared of Bryan. I really, really was, and I really tried to fight it, and I think I talked about that. I was at this crossroads. I run to the situation that’s more difficult for me. It’s more of a challenge that I can fix. I’m a fixer, and I run away from the guy who is every single thing that I want because I just think that either I don’t deserve it. And for the first time, I stopped running away from it, and I was like, ‘Why can’t you have what you want?’ And that was Bryan.” On Monday night’s final episode of The Bachelorette, America watched as Abasolo got down on one knee and proposed to his “soulmate.” “Rachel, when I first stepped out of that limo I knew I was in for the ride of my life,” Abasolo, 37, said during the final rose ceremony in Spain. “When we first kissed it was literally like a chemistry bomb had just exploded and I just knew that first night with 100 percent certainty in my heart that we could definitely be something special. You are everything I could ever want in a woman, a wife, the mother of my children. I am completely head over heels totally and absolutely in love with you. I just hope you feel the same.” After Lindsay expressed similar feelings, Abasolo said, “I am the best version of myself when I’m with you — you’re so easy and effortless to love. I want to love you for the rest of my life.” During his hometown date in Dallas, Abasolo could not seem to get off on the right foot when it came to winning over Lindsay’s family. “I was very excited to introduce Bryan to my family, but I felt like my excitement wasn’t reciprocated by my family,” Lindsay said during the episode. “I’m irritated at this point. The energy is totally different than it was the other two days with Peter and Eric.” “My gut is telling me Bryan is a charmer,” Lindsay’s sister said. “He’s direct and he’s open, but I don’t think there’s the sincerity factor in it. My guard was up.” In the end, Lindsay, who had an emotional goodbye with runner-up Peter Kraus, knew he was the one for her. “Trust me, she put me through the ringer the entire season,” Abasolo says. Lindsay adds, “I saw the potential in him. I just wanted to make sure that it was real because my family was like, ‘He’s so charming.’ I was like, ‘Well, so am I.’ I needed to make sure that he is the person he says he is.” And now that they’ve gone public with their engagement, Abasolo is wasting no time showing off their love, sharing a lengthy, heartfelt tribute to Lindsay on Instagram.

@therachlindsay Rachel ❤️ my love, my rock!! It's felt like forever, but the wait is finally over!!! 🙏🏼 No longer do I have to hide the fact that you are and always have been the one for me! No longer do I have to keep secret how in love w you I truly am from the rest of the world! Hearing you say "yes" on the top of that castle in Spain was the greatest moment of my life! I was optimistic about what could be prior to stepping out of that limo but never in my wildest dreams could I had foreseen us building such a strong foundation and deep bond in the last 6 months. Every single day literally gets better and better with you and reaffirms that God placed you in my path for a reason. We've gone through so much...the ups, the downs, the challenges...but in the end, what shines above all else is the deep love, loyalty, respect and admiration we have for each other and that's what will continue to carry us through into our future. I can't wait to start our new life together full of fun and adventure! I am so blessed and lucky to have you and I promise to cherish you forever! I love you baby! ❤️😍💍 #whenyouknowyouknow #thebacheloretteabc #bachelornation

A post shared by Bryan Abasolo (@thebryanabasolo) on Aug 7, 2017 at 10:07pm PDT

On cloud 9 ☁️☁️☁️☁️☁️ #NY #CT #DAL #MIA #✌🏼

A post shared by Bryan Abasolo (@thebryanabasolo) on Aug 7, 2017 at 10:45pm PDT

At the end of the day, the duo realized they could not be more well-suited. “We’re going to be together, and I’m going to wake up next to this woman for the rest of my life,” he tells PEOPLE. “That’s something that I’m going to cherish. We can’t focus on anything that anybody else says on the outside. Our life is our life.” “Love is love for us,” adds Lindsay. “For us, we have to be strong for each other if this is going to work.”
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