After she went viral for sharing the story of how she caught her boyfriend cheating, Ayana the Diva talks to us about what's next.
In an internet society, all the good and bad that happens during the course of one day can easily go viral. Ayana the Diva is a testament to this as the restaurant employee recently had Twitter in a frenzy over her account of finding out her boyfriend was cheating on her with a co-worker.
In the series of tweets, the 26-year-old breaks down how she was casually chatting with her co-worker when she found out she was dating the same man Ayana lives with.
“Well he has definitely reached out now that the story has gone viral,” Ayana told ESSENCE. “We’ve only been communicating through text messages so he can retrieve his things.”
When asked what was most surprising about the entire inicdent, she says it was how close the young lady lived to them. “The most surprising part was that my coworker lived only six freaking houses down!”
But aside from the tragedy —or triumph, however you place finding your partner is no good— her writing was invigorating and incredibly descriptive, similar to Zola, the Hooters waitress who went viral in 2016 for an insane real-life crime story.
“I do enjoy writing,” Ayana the Diva said. “I have gotten a ton of feedback about how good and detailed my Twitter thread was. I have been asked about writing scripts for TV shows, mini movies, skits, etc. I’m flattered that people were able to enjoy the read and feel like they were apart of the experience with us.”
Hi I'm Charreah Jackson Relationships Editor for Essence Magazine and you're watching Ask A Brother. And I'm Charli Penn Relationships Editor at Essence.com. We've seen all the questions you have for men and we hit the streets of New York City to find out. Real questions from you the reader. OK how do you define cheating? Lets start there. How do you define cheating. Cheating is a physical thing. It's like when you go out, and you're in a relationship with someone, and you go out and have a relationship or some kind of affair or something like that with someone else. Now, a lot of women feel like all men cheat. Do you agree? Definitely not. Women cheat just as much as men. Ooh, okay! [LAUGH] Accusations, ladies. Have you ever cheated? No. Never. Never. Wow. And have you been cheated on? Of course. Of course? Why is it of course? Because, it always happens. I mean, it's, it's happened. I'm not going to go into detail, but it's happened. Could you forgive a woman for cheating, ever? It depends, really. It depends on where you are in your life and how that relationship was. You know, there's different elements of cheating. if it was just internet or flirting. And you caught if before it got physical, then maybe. But physical? Definitely not. We're in a technological world these days, so you know we have to set boundaries when a relationship begins. So, it depends on what the context of texting involves. Is sending flirty text messages cheating? As far as I'm concerned, yes. I, if a, if a girlfriend I had did that, I think I would feel hurt. Is it something physical? I mean in a way, yeah cuz it leads up to that. The physical part, so yeah. Well, if you are showing them any type of intimacy, you know, intimacy can be defined in many ways, Mm-hm. But if, if I do it and you get upset, then you shouldn't do it as well. That's fair, you know? Yeah. If you don't like it, don't do it, right? Basic principle, I think they teach that in elementary school. [LAUGH] Do unto others as you want done to you, right?