Self-Love: 7 Sex Toys To Get Yourself For Valentine's Day

By Elizabeth Ayoola · Updated December 8, 2022

If you were looking for the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for yourself, how about a nice toy? Sex toy that is. Self-pleasuring, or masturbation, is something that was once taboo, but that’s changing thanks to sex positive messaging and a whole host of advanced products that have become available over the years. And the fun thing about those toys is you can use them alone or to heat up the bedroom with a partner. 

In case you need a crash course on the benefits of masturbation, your body releases endorphins, which lift your mood, improve sleep and reduce stress. If you’re adding to your toy collection or starting from scratch, we have a few suggestions to help you live your best sex life. These are mostly Black-owned, too!

01

Heart to Heart Dildo

All the Real Housewives of Atlanta fans probably know Kandi Burruss has a sex toy line. Bedroom Kandi’s silicone dildo is not only cute, but it’s also made from body-safe materials.  Available at

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02

Satisfyer Heat Vibration Black Stroker

Have you thought about adding heat to your play sessions? This vibrator does that — literally. It’s also waterproof and works well with water-based lubricants.  Available at

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03

Fun Factory Laya Spot II

Clitoral stimulation is key for most women as we have 8,000 nerve endings in the tip alone. This baby will stimulate both your clitoris and labia. It’s also good to use for a massage during foreplay. Available at

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Popular Snail Vibe 

For the lucky women who get vaginal orgasms, you can get both a vaginal and clitoral orgasm at once using this toy. Five speeds and five modes, it’s made of body-safe silicone and is waterproof.  Available at

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05

Red & Blue Glass Flower Butt Plug

Anal play isn’t for everyone. If it’s something you enjoy, these Black-owned pieces are made by hand and no piece is made exactly the same so you’re getting a one-of-a-kind toy.  Available at

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Pink Vibrating Anal Pleaser

Want to take anal play up a notch? Here’s an anal plug that vibrates. It works for beginners or people with more experience. It’s phthalate and latex-free in case you’re allergic.  Available at

27.99 Shop Now

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Wireless G Spot Dildo Stimulator

The G Spot dildo stimulator comes with a remote control. It has 10 speed vibrations so your partner can tease you unexpectedly while out for dinner, or you can tease yourself during solo play! Available at

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