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Kevin McCall has had a lot to say lately.
The music writer, best known for his relationship with Eva Marcille and composing Chris Brown’s 2011 hit song “Deuces,” has been speaking out on a range of topics and offending people along the way. From who really shot his toe and beefing with Chris Brown to custody drama and being blocked by Brandy, the young man has made headlines. But his most recent statements about Black women had social media talking.
According to McCall, Black women are too focused on work. And that’s what’s wrong with the Black community.
“The issue in the Black community right now is a dating issue and a parenting issue, specifically for Black women because my mother was a Black woman,” the 32-year-old so eloquently begins.
“Women, y’all need to stop putting this white man and this job before yourself, before your destiny, before your children. And then you wonder why ni**as can’t really rock with you like that cause you trying to do our job.”
In a now-removed video from December, McCall claimed that he was broke and hungry. But apparently, that money came back — it had to in order for him follow up with this so-called solution for working Black women.
“See, I’m the ni**a they don’t really need nothing. I’ll be a bum if it was really up to me. I don’t believe in money. The only reason I’ve got racks is for my wife. But if you’re busy working, trying to do what I did… I’m the one who wrote ‘Deuces’ so we can have a mansion on deck. You feel me? But if you’re busy working, I can’t get to know you. My mom was so busy trying to show me love, working, that she was never home. I hope my fiancee doesn’t make that same mistake.”
Acknowledging McCall’s past indiscretions would take all day, and quite frankly, is not worth our time. But for this string of loosely-put-together thoughts, we’d like to note that Black women are tired of being the scapegoat of society, and specifically, of mediocre Black men.
The idea that financially providing is a sin against the Black family, is ludicrous, demeaning and lazy. Depending on a man for financial stability, especially for women with children, is downright dangerous. And this patriarchal concept of qualifying for a man’s love and devotion —predicated on stroking his ego— is canceled.
While some may agree with McCall’s dated concept of gender roles and family, we’re standing by the countless Black women who work hard every day to provide for their loved ones as the ultimate sign of sacrifice, and yes, love.
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