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Jada Pinkett Smith Warns Against Romantic Love Being The Considered ‘The Highest Form Of Love’ In Relationships

“The only thing to do in life is to find the form of love where we can give the best of ourselves…”
Jada Pinkett Smith Warns Against Romantic Love Being The Considered ‘The Highest Form Of Love’ In Relationships
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By Paula Rogo · Updated October 23, 2020
Jada Pinkett Smith believes that relationships that prioritize romantic love can be negatively affected, especially once a couple falls out of love. The Red Table Talk host shared a clip on Friday after she had an epiphany about the durability of love. “I had to call Will and say, ‘You know what? I have to thank you for enduring my rage.’ It made me realize how durable love must be because we don’t have all the answers in the beginning,” she said in the video.
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I used to believe that romantic love was the highest form of love until I realized how unmet standards of romantic love often justified it to turn into a cold heart that many times can fuel hateful and brutal actions of revenge and manipulation towards someone you ‘say’ or ‘said’ you loved. It actually may be the only form of love you can fall OUT of. At one point ... MY romantic standard of love was all that mattered and if it wasn’t met ... there was more than hell to pay. My romantic standards were feeding my ego whether they were met or unmet. I experienced some very hard lessons (and continue to do so) that formed the decision that my ego and my heart could not share the same space. It was also the deciding factor to transform my union to @willsmith from a marriage (contaminated with all the above) to a life partnership led by and steeped in ‘devotional friendship’. The only thing to do in life is to find the form of love where we can give the best of ourselves AND ... it’s not always going to look like you thought. Love, love and love some more ❤️✨

A post shared by Jada Pinkett Smith (@jadapinkettsmith) on Feb 1, 2019 at 8:37am PST

The couple, who wed on New Year’s Eve in 1997, opened up about the ups and downs of their relationship in a two-part episode of the Facebook Watch show last year — and it was clear the couple had learned to live their marriage their own terms.  In her caption for the Instagram post, Pinkett Smith further explained that she doesn’t believe romantic love is the highest form of love because of how people respond to their unmet standards of love. “I realized how unmet standards of romantic love often justified it to turn into a cold heart that many times can fuel hateful and brutal actions of revenge and manipulation towards someone you ‘say’ or ‘said’ you loved,” she wrote. But she admits that some very hard lessons taught her that “my ego and my heart could not share the same space.” “It was also the deciding factor to transform my union to @willsmith from a marriage (contaminated with all the above) to a life partnership led by and steeped in ‘devotional friendship,’” Jada stated in conclusion. “The only thing to do in life is to find the form of love where we can give the best of ourselves AND … it’s not always going to look like you thought.” We appreciate the wisdom!
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