Gabourey Sidibe, better known as Becky on Empire, actually went by that same alias when she auditioned for her first job as a phone sex operator. (Yes, you read that correctly.) Sidide actually worked for the company for three years right up until her first big break as the star of the Academy Award-nominated film Precious.

On Monday, Sidibe released her first memoir, This Is Just My Face: Try Not to Stare. After reading and listening to excerpts of the autobiography, we learned the Sidibe is freaking hilarious and we want to be her friend as well as a few key lessons that we can all apply to life. Keep reading for nine takeaways we learned from Sidibe’s book.