How Jada Pinkett-Smith Has Stayed Happily Married to Will Smith For Almost 20 Years

The 'Girls Trip' star drops a gem on what it takes to make a marriage work.

Lauren Porter Jul, 19, 2017

On New Years Eve 1997, Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith became husband and wife, and since tying the knot they’ve become one of the most iconic couples in Hollywood.

Over the last 20 years, The Smiths have seen profound success both individually and together as a team. According to Girls Trip star, one of their biggest secrets to lasting love began by looking within to build a happy foundation.

“I’ve learned what makes a happy union,” Smith told the People and Entertainment Weekly Network (PEN) show Mamarazzi during a live taping. “You have to learn your happiness individually.”

The couple has maintained a certain level of privacy throughout their decades-long marriage and their bond has become an inspiration to fans. Smith continued by explaining how she and Will have made it a priority to heal and find personal happiness.

“You can’t expect your partner to make you happy, and that’s across the board,” said Smith. “You can’t expect your partner to make you feel beautiful, make you feel intelligent. All these expectations we have in these partnerships I think is what’s deteriorating our partnerships. Ultimately, what I’ve realized is being married is the hardest thing you’ll ever do. I realized that when I would just go to the side and deal with my stuff. All my childhood trauma, all my daddy issues that I was trying to bring into this marriage cause he’s not my father, he’s not meant to do that work, he is not meant to buoy me in a way that I can’t for myself. And he had to go and do the same and when two people can come back together in their own happiness and just add to that happiness…”

The Smiths remain in it for the longhaul.

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[MUSIC] You've known him and you're gonna be coming up on 20 years together. Yes. And I'm in my zone of 20 years with my husband. Wow. So from me to you, congratulations. Same to you. However. However, comma, pause. No, no, no, no, no. How [INAUDIBLE] It's communication- What are you doing to celebrate How do you keep the romance, any tips on that? Well you know for me, what I've what makes a happy union. You know what I'm saying. is you really have to Find your happiness individually. Mm You can't expect your partner to make you happy. Yes, that is That is across the board, like you can't expect your partner to Make you feel beautiful, make you feel intelligent, like all these expectations.>> Right.>> We have in these partnerships, I think what's deteriorating our partnerships. And what I've realized is that you know ultimately being married is the hardest thing you'll ever do. And. I realized that when I was willing to just go to the side and deal with my stuff. All my childhood trauma. All my daddy issues that I was trying to bring into this marriage cuz he's not my father. He is not meant to do that work. He is not meant to [UNKNOWN] me in a way that I can't for myself. And he had to go and do the same. And so when two people can come back together in their own happiness and just add to that happiness. That's how you get to 20 years. [SOUND] [BLANK_AUDIO]