Actor Richard Gallion shares how he saved his marriage after adultery threatened to tear them apart.
It all started when I decided to change my life and live for God back in July of 2008. I began by reconciling with my father, who is now deceased. I had a 5-year-old daughter, and my wife, who was my girlfriend at the time, was pregnant with our son. I really started to seek a closer relationship with God. When I realized that we were “shacking up,” we set a wedding date. God saw that I was a man after his own heart, and that’s when the blessings really began. I was always compared to David in the bible, and as time went on, I started to understand why. I was selected to go on a major promotional tour and I married my wife two days before I left.
I was on tour for eight months, and for the first half of the time, things were going well. I was reading my Bible, writing a play based on my life with my father called Living Without Love and talking to my pastor. But none of that meant anything because I didn’t deal with the inner me before I left. I always had a lust problem and that very problem started to get the best of me because I didn’t really deal with it. I cheated on my wife with one of the models on the tour. That woman and I conceived a daughter. A year later, the tour was over, and I was faced with the reality that I now have two kids and my wife didn’t conceive one of them.
I openly confessed to my wife about what I’d done for two reasons. The first: I told God I would never bring a child into this world and not be a great father to it so I wasn’t going to hid my beautiful daughter. Secondly, I was also thankful that the lifelong gift the other woman gave me was a child and not a disease. It was hard for my wife and I at first, but I thank God that she forgave me and she didn’t ask for a divorce – we came very close. We split up for a few months, however. I was so stupid. I struggled with lust and now I realize that my biggest enemy was my inside me. Now, I’ve started to dig into the root of the problem and everything is under control because I had to change my own mind about how I wanted my life to go. In order to get different results, you must do something differently.
My wife and I are now doing great in our marriage and it’s stronger than it ever was before. I'm a proud father of three and I realized that lust is my weakness, and I have confessed it and prayed for restoration. God has answered. I decided to write a production called “Voice of a Child” that touches on my infidelity, and in the production, the woman actually cheats on her man. I wrote it that way because I already knew what happens when a man cheats, the pain that causes and what happens when the woman decides to take him back, but I wanted to imagine what would happen if the tables were turned and how the same pain would play out, and how they would heal.
Actor and Model Richard Gallion stars in the film The Good Life, available to rent or buy this week. For more details on his new play "Voice of a Child" click here.