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14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’

There isn't a Black woman over 30 who can't quote at least two classic lines from Waiting to Exhale. Since its 1995 release, these are the moments and messages from the film that stuck with us.
By Charli Penn · Updated October 27, 2020
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Forever Our Favorite

There isn’t a Black woman over 30 who can’t quote at least two classic lines from Waiting to Exhale. Since its 1995 release, these are the moments and messages from the film that stuck with us.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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Never Love A Man You Know Doesn’t Belong To You

Poor Robin. She saw happily ever after when Russell only saw her as a booty call. Great sex doesn’t equal a great love.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
03
Heartbreak Hurts Like Hell

To quote Aretha Franklin, who put it best on the official soundtrack, “Sometimes it hurts to love so bad. (When you know you’ve given all you can) Sometimes it hurts to even laugh. (You do your best but it’s still much too sad) Sometimes the pain is just too much. And it hurts like hell. That’s the way it feels.” Enough said.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
04
Never Put Your Dreams On Hold For His

Bernie learned this one the hard way when she had to start anew after her divorce. Ladies, always have your own money and your own dreams.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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Sometimes Exactly What You Need Is Nothing That You Expect

Bernie had no idea that a somber, post-court visit to the closest bar would turn into one of the most moving nights of her life. Live your life and it will all work out. Even when it hurts so much you feel like you can’t go on.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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Sometimes You Just Have to Let It Burn

When your heart is broken into pieces, just as Bernadine’s was after her husband suddenly left her with nothing, sometimes you just have to let it burn so that the healing can begin.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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Beware Of Bringing Them To Bed Too Soon

It was the “grr” heard ’round the world. Poor Savannah couldn’t get Lionel out of her bed fast enough. Always beware of who you’re bringing home.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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When Love Lets You Down, Your Sisters Lift You Up

Can you imagine if Bernie, Robin, Savannah and Gloria hadn’t had each other to lean on in their time of need? Their love story was perhaps the greatest one of all.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
09
Never Let Them See You Sweat

We forgave you for this one Bernie, but girl you know you were wrong. Even in times of heartache and pain the high road is still the best road to take and it’s always best not to let them see you sweat

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
10
Someone Else’s Husband Can Never Become Yours

In the end, Savannah learned something that every woman should. You should never get involved with a married man and then believe him when he promises to leave his wife and put a ring on your finger instead. This scenario is the definition of empty promises.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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Settling Is Never The Answer

Unfortunately young and naive Robin had to have this realization during an awkward moment between the sheets with Michael. Settling for less than you desire won’t make you happy, no matter how good he looks on paper.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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Don’t Let A Painful Past Block A Promising Future

Before Gloria could truly let Marvin love her the way she deserved, she first had to let go of the pain and scars from her past. Put simply, healing is a personal journey, and even the right man can’t do the work for you.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
13
Friends Don’t Let Friends Drunk Dial

After on too many, Bernie couldn’t resist picking up the phone to call her ex and give him a piece of her mind. Instead, when his new girlfriend answered, things got pretty ugly, fast. Thankfully before she could go too far, her girls shut it down and found a way to left her spirits again.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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Romance Doesn’t Always Lead To A Fairytale Ending

When Savannah met Lionel, she thought she’d struck gold. Hmph. Not all books are as good as their covers, especially when it comes to romance.

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’
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A Little Flirting Goes A Long Way

When Gloria realized a new man was moving in next door, she put the charm on him and we know how well that worked out. (Wink.)

14 Essential Love Lessons We Learned from ‘Waiting To Exhale’