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Home • Relationships

20 Ways to Save Black Love

20 Ways to Save Black Love
By Essence · Updated October 28, 2020
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“Increase self-love so that people can truly know how and what it means to love another.” By @NaturallyJazzy

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Individuals should take responsibility for their personal & relationship issues & stop blaming society, men, women, etc. By @sowhatiff

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“Improved communication in couples before vows are made. A lot of people don’t discuss wants and desires before marriage.” By @ibanomaly

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“Increase number of healthy, mentally stable, commitment ready, family oriented black singles and a way for them to meet.” By @Occaneechi

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“A solution for the new form of slavery..mass incarceration..in addition to aggressive education of black men.” By @LaPhonologist

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“Black Love needs better PR. It’s not just Barack & Michelle or Will & Jada.” By @YonnieTaughtU

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“We have to stop glamorizing the ‘I don’t need anybody’ attitude. Wise people know interdependence is key.” By @BoldBeauty56

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“The culture needs to show it as more common vs. being a rarity. Most TV shows depict relationships as being drama filled.” By @RohanCrawford

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“Take the option of divorce off the table.” By @Key2J

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“Instead of the media pushing co-habitation, marriage should be encouraged instead.” By @imlizzashley

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“What if gov’t FURTHER incentivized marriage? Lower tax bills, subsidized housing and healthcare?” By @AwesomeJohnson

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“Women need to learn their role and allow a man to be a man. God didn’t intend for the woman to be the head.” By @Only1Maranda

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“Put God first!” By @EllyG_

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People need to see & hear healthy relationships, great 1s & especially 1s that were not always great but they made it still. By @ivorytabb"

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More conversations about marriage and forums by married couples…that keep the convo real! By @myriadthatisme

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People need to see & hear healthy relationships, great 1s & especially 1s that were not always great but they made it still. By @ivorytabb

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“We need to give black women sufficient reason to begin respecting us again by becoming better men (husbands, fathers, providers).” By @jimitweets

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“In this INSTANT society Teach commitment, sticktoitiveness, conflict resolution, empathy, diversity & CARE!” By @UrbanDialog

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“Emphasize the spiritual significance of the covenant over the legal significance of the contract.” By @BWSchick

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“Change the belief that marriage marks the end of “life”, fun and freedom. By @Maleywood

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“Be honest about whether we’re truly willing to do what it takes to make love work, which involves selflessness & sacrifice.” By @Mr_Squires

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20 Ways to Save Black Love