• Celebrity
    • Cardi B and Offset Cover
    • Celebrity News
    • ‘Yes, Girl!’ Podcast
    • Entertainment
    • Black Celeb Couples
    • Celebrity Moms
    • Red Carpet
  • Fashion
    • Digital Cover – Method Man
    • Digital Cover – Zazie Beetz
    • Fashion News
    • Fashion House 2021
    • Street Style
    • Accessories
    • Fashion Week
  • Beauty
    • Black Beauty Awards 2022
    • ESSENCE Hair Awards 2022
    • AVEENO® Skin Health Startup Accelerator
    • MAYBELLINE: FIT ME MATTE + PORELESS
    • Beauty News
    • Skin
    • Makeup
    • Nails
    • Girls United: Beautiful Possibilities
  • Hair
    • Hair News
    • Natural
    • Relaxed
    • Transitioning
    • Weaves
    • 4C
  • Love
    • Love & Sex
    • The Solve Podcast
    • Weddings
    • Parenting
    • Relationships
  • Lifestyle
    • Build Your Legacy 2022
    • Prudential – Dream & Plan with Confidence
    • Black History Month
    • AMEX Platinum Travel
    • Holiday Gift Guide
    • Lifestyle News
    • Coronavirus: Everything You Need to Know
    • Health & Wellness
    • ESSENCE Eats
    • Money & Career
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Travel
    • Food & Drink
    • Black Travel Guide
    • Currency Conversations
  • News
    • Latest News
    • Raise Your Voice
    • Culture
    • Politics
  • Videos
  • Festival
  • Events
    • Road to Festival
    • 2022 Black Women In Hollywood
    • 2022 HOLLYWOOD HOUSE
    • Entrepreneur Summit 2021
    • Wellness House
    • VAX & VIBES Louisiana
    • Girls United Summit 2021
    • She Got Now
    • Fashion House 2021
    • GU Back To School
    • Dear Black Men
    • I Am Speaking
    • WELLNESS HOUSE: YEAR OF RENEWAL
    • Power Tools
    • Making Moves Now: Virtual Bootcamp
    • #EF SESSIONS
    • Cares Act
    • News & Announcements
  • Essence Studios
  • Girls United
  • Subscribe
  • Newsletters

WHERE BLACK WOMEN COME FIRST

Every day we're serving Black women deeply. Come get a plate of goodness! Sign up for daily content and exclusive offers you'll love!

Your email is required.
Your email is in invalid format.
Confirm email is required.
Email did not match.
By clicking Sign Up, you agree to our Terms of Use and that you have read our Privacy Policy
Skip to content
SUBSCRIBE
  • MAGAZINE
  • NEWSLETTER
  • Celebrity
    • Cardi B and Offset Cover
    • Celebrity News
    • ‘Yes, Girl!’ Podcast
    • Entertainment
    • Black Celeb Couples
    • Celebrity Moms
    • Red Carpet
  • Fashion
    • Digital Cover – Method Man
    • Digital Cover – Zazie Beetz
    • Fashion News
    • Fashion House 2021
    • Street Style
    • Accessories
    • Fashion Week
  • Beauty
    • Black Beauty Awards 2022
    • ESSENCE Hair Awards 2022
    • AVEENO® Skin Health Startup Accelerator
    • Beauty News
    • MAYBELLINE: FIT ME MATTE + PORELESS
    • Skin
    • Makeup
    • Nails
    • Girls United: Beautiful Possibilities
  • Hair
    • Hair News
    • Natural
    • Relaxed
    • Transitioning
    • Weaves
    • 4C
  • Love
    • Love & Sex News
    • The Solve Podcast
    • Weddings
    • Parenting
    • Relationships
  • Lifestyle
    • Build Your Legacy 2022
    • Prudential – Dream & Plan with Confidence
    • Black History Month
    • AMEX Platinum Travel
    • Holiday Gift Guide
    • Lifestyle News
    • Coronavirus: Everything You Need to Know
    • Health & Wellness
    • ESSENCE Eats
    • Money & Career
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Travel
    • Food & Drink
    • Black Travel Guide
    • Currency Conversations
  • News
    • Latest News
    • Raise Your Voice
    • Culture
    • Politics
  • Videos
  • Festival
  • Events
    • Road to Festival
    • 2022 Black Women In Hollywood
    • 2022 HOLLYWOOD HOUSE
    • Entrepreneur Summit 2021
    • Wellness House
    • VAX & VIBES Louisiana
    • Girls United Summit 2021
    • She Got Now
    • Fashion House 2021
    • GU Back To School
    • Dear Black Men
    • I Am Speaking
    • WELLNESS HOUSE: YEAR OF RENEWAL
    • Power Tools
    • Making Moves Now: Virtual Bootcamp
    • #EF SESSIONS
    • Cares Act
    • News & Announcements
  • Studios
  • Girls United
Home · Relationships

8 Signs You Shouldn't Be Sleeping With Him

8 Signs You Shouldn't Be Sleeping With Him
By · Updated October 28, 2020
01
Be Sure Before You Go There!

Sex is no joke. You shouldn’t be sleeping with anyone without being 100 percent sure it’s what you want and whether or not he’s the man you think he is. Women, along with men, commonly make the mistake of having sex too soon. Knowing the telltale signs that taking your relationship to the next level is bad news is key. Here are eight things to look out for when making your decision on whom to meet between the sheets.

Getty Images
02
You Don’t Know Where to Find Him

What’s his full name? Where does he work? Have you seen the inside of his place? No, this isn’t an interrogation. It’s a wake up call. If you can’t answer questions like this about the man you plan to share your bed with, that’s a problem, and you definitely can’t say you know him well. Start there, and save the sex for much later on.

03
He Doesn’t Put You First

If the man you’re dating will update his Facebook status before he’ll return your phone call, you are not a priority in his life. And if so, why give him top billing on your stage?

Getty Images
04
He’s Got A One Track Mind

If every conversation you have winds up taking a “dirty” turn, courtesy of him, you’re seeing a man with a one track mind. If sex is all he has on the brain, there is no room for romance, love or marriage.

Getty Images
05
You Know One Too Many of His Exes

It’s not unusual to date someone that an acquaintance dated once upon a time, it happens. It is a red flag when you can name quite a few of his former flames, and you’re on speaking terms with most of them. Let’s face it, he gets around. Time to move on!

Getty Images
06
You Can’t Find a Single Flaw

No one is perfect and no man is the exception to this rule. If you can’t think of a single negative thing to say about him, he’s trying way too hard to please you and even harder to cover something up. Think about it.

Getty Images
07
You Touch More Than You Talk

Is your relationship more about cuddling than conversing? That’s no good. Think back, are you holding each other and sharing your dreams or, well… just holding each other? You should have more than just great sex in common.

Getty Images
08
He’s Your Best Kept Secret

Yes, some friends can hate on your date due to their own issues, but it’s never a good sign when no one in your circle of trust approves of who you’re seeing. Those who love you most want what’s best for you. If you’re keeping him a secret from them, he’s no prize and you know it. Sleeping with “that guy” will only complicate things. Steer clear!

Getty Images
09
He Won’t Take His Foot Off the Gas

Your first date was just a month ago, and he’s already talking romantic getaways for two and meeting his mama. Love takes time. If he has none to waste, he’s rushing things, and you need to stop and ask yourself why.

Getty Images
10
1352193

Read More

News
Did U.S. Rep. Mary Miller Claim Victory For “White Life”...
Fashion
The Most Influential Street Style Moments From 2022 Men’s ...
Black Celeb Couples
Big Boi, Sherlita Patton Divorce After 20 Years Together —...
Videos
ESSENCE x Grey Goose ESSENCES: Toast to Black Fashion
Shop
Lizzo’s 2022 B.E.T. Awards Red Carpet Look Says Summer Fea...
COMPANY INFORMATION
  • Our Company
  • Customer Service
  • Essence Ventures
  • Change Your Address
  • Contact Us
  • Job Opportunities
  • Internships
  • Media Kit
  • tag
SUBSCRIBE
  • Newsletters
  • Give a Gift of ESSENCE
  • Magazine Tablet Edition
FOLLOW US
MORE ON ESSENCE
  • Home
  • Love
  • Celebrity
  • Beauty
  • Hair
  • Fashion
  • ESSENCE festival

ESSENCE.com is part of ESSENCE Communications, Inc.

Essence may receive compensation for some links to products and services on this website. Offers may be subject to change without notice.

©2022 ESSENCE Communications Inc. All Rights Reserved. | Privacy Policy | Terms of Use | Essence.com Advertising Terms

Get The ESSENCE Newsletter and
Special Offers delivered to your inbox

By clicking Sign Up, you agree to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Get The ESSENCE Magazine
by subscribing below
subscribe now