12 Reasons Why Idris Elba Is Our Favorite Zaddy


Let's count the ways we love this actor on his 45th birthday.

ESSENCE Editors Jun, 01, 2012

We’re celebrating our favorite British actor’s birthdays with a breakdown of why he’s so amazing. From his on-screen skills to being a loving father, this 45-year-old impresses us all the time. Flip through and reminisce on why you love Idris Elba too.

1 of 12 David M. Benett

I preach this all the time. To keep your relationship hot, you have to keep your relationship hot – which means new and exciting activities and adventures. Research shows that if partners experience excitement from other sources (such as novel and challenging activities) in a shared context, this shared experience can spark or reignite relationship passion by associating the excitement with the relationship.

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He's always calm, cool and collected. We love that!

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The science behind this speaks volumes. In a study I found, subjects induced to exchange a mutual unbroken gaze for 2 minutes with a stranger of the opposite sex reported increased feelings of passionate love for each other. That unflinching eye contact will hook ’em!

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So who is Idris Elba dating? Hmmm, you don’t know? Neither do most of us, and that’s what you love about him. It’s the mysteriousness and uncertainty about the type of women he likes that actually makes him more compelling to all women.

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Run a Google image search for Idris Elba, and you’ll see he rarely smiles in photos. This has really helped his cause. In a great article called “Happy Guys Finish Last” an interesting study was revealed where we see happiness is the most attractive female emotion expression, and one of the least attractive in males. So men who do more mean muggin’ actually win.

6 of 12 David M Benett

Okay, I don’t know about his off-screen persona, but on-screen, Idris predominantly plays bad boys. And yes, it is true, women who like sex prefer bad boys. According to the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who are more permissive and who are willing to engage in sex are more attracted to bad boys.

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Ahh, the calm we feel from this photo.

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Research that looked at U.S. presidential candidates between 1960 and 2000 found that in all eight elections, the candidate with the lower voice won the popular vote. Psychologically, we are more inclined to like men with lower-pitched and slower talking voices.

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Idris Elba and his daughter Isan are the cutest on red carpets. He's made it clear more than once that he does what he loves, to set a positive example for his children— follow your dreams.

10 of 12 Jonathan Leibson

In all of his hit roles, from playing a drug lord on The Wire to a detective on the hit BBC series Luther, he always appears to be very competent at his work. Success at your job, whatever it is, conveys you have the skills to “get things done,” and an achiever means a winner.

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According to a report by MSNBC, the more attractive the woman was to the guy, the more likely he was to overestimate her interest in him. And it turns out; the less attractive men (who believed they were better looking than the women rated them) were more likely to think beautiful women were hot for them. But the more attractive guys tend to have a more realistic assessment.

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Confidence and high self-esteem are sexy, no question. In six studies from the Evolutionary Psychology journal, men with ostensibly higher levels of self-esteem were rated as more attractive and as more desirable relationship partners than those with lower levels of self-esteem.