Translation: Someone isn’t telling the truth about how they really feel. Before you sit down again to replay the same tiff, try asking yourselves “what is it you haven’t said already, but you should?” The answers to that question will be a great start to a new discussion.
Dilemma: You Can’t Agree on What to Do Tonight
Translation: One of you really wants to go out and the other one really doesn’t. There’s no real win-win here, but your best bet is to let the person who wants to venture out choose the activity and hope the other will come around.
Dilemma: You’re Nitpicking At Each Other
Translation: You’re spending way too much time together. He’s nowhere near as annoying as you think he is right now, you just need some time apart to remember what you love about him. Too much of a good thing can be bad. We recommend a ladies night, stat!
Dilemma: You Haven’t Been As Intimate As You’d Like
Translation: Your schedules are out of sync. Block out a weekend for each other where you both plan nothing else but alone time to regain your intimacy. This means cell phones away lights out, clothes off. No exceptions.
Dilemma: You’re Fighting About An Ex
Translation: One, or both, of you aren’t fully letting go of the past. Your exes can only become hot topics if you bring them up. Before you can fully move forward you must move on.
Dilemma: There’s Tension Over Money
Translation: You’re avoiding the big pink elephant in the room. Money matters! If you haven’t sat down to discuss the best way to handle finances in your relationship, it’s about time you did. You both need to be clear on what your priorities and plans are, before the “money issues” drive a permanent wedge between you.
Dilemma: You Don’t Get Along With Each Other’s Friends
Translation: You’re gossiping about your relationship too much. Your friends see the person you’re with through your eyes. When you’ve moved on and forgiven your lover for what happened, your friends haven’t forgotten what went down. If they’re holding grudges it will show when you all get together.