Just like when you fall off your bike as a kid and are afraid to get back on again, dating someone new right after a bad breakup can be tough to do. You’re scared of getting hurt again. You don’t trust yourself to know when the feeling’s right or wrong. You can’t imagine having to start all over again, and what if he’s not The One? We get it, your emotions are all over the place. Dating again before you’re ready will only heighten those fears. How do you know when it’s time to get back on and ride it out or when to skip your turn? This guide will help.
If you can’t remember the last time you almost dialed his number or if you still have it saved in your phone.
If you still send him texts or tweets and write on his Facebook wall whenever a love song comes on the radio.
If when you speak about your ex it’s all (or mostly) positive because you've moved on from the past and you genuinely wish him the best.
If you can't find a single nice thing to say about your time together and you fantasize about him hurting the way you are.
If you don’t wonder who he’s with or what he’s doing every second, minute, and hour of the day.
If you still drive by his place even though it’s really not “on the way".
If you recognize what you learned from the relationship and what you can take away from the experiences (good and bad) that you shared with him.
If your answer to the question “What kind of guy are you looking to date?” begins with “Someone like my ex, but…”
If you and your friends have stopped referring to him by evil nicknames and are back to calling him his government name or "your ex".
If drinking more than two glasses of wine means you will most likely call him, speak your mind, then hang up real fast and wish you hadn't.
If you have thought long and hard about a new relationship and you are sure you want to explore one. Remember there will be ups, downs, and turnarounds. No relationship is perfect.
If you can’t even bring yourself to say the words “I’m ready to try again". It's okay. Just make sure you're honest with yourself first and foremost. So...are you ready?