You get married because you can't picture your life without your lover and want to be with him for the rest of your days. Unfortunately, keeping that flame lit 'til death do you part is easier said than done. Earlier this week we hit up our ESSENCE community through our Facebook and Twitter pages and asked you to write to us and tell us what you think the secret to a successful marriage is. It turns out that most of the ESSENCE.com readers agree that communication is the main ingredient of a good marriage. Others mentioned tolerance, trust, honesty and honor. Here are your secrets to a successful marriage... Check out the reasons why these four bachelors thought it was the right time to propose.