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[SOUND] Last week, David Banner [LAUGH] Kim, Kim. Last week, David Banner stopped by Essence live to talk about his new single, Marry Me. But of course, that's not all we discussed. Banner's remarks sparked an instant social conversation on our Facebook page with over 200 comments. Let's check a couple out. Anna Hutchinson commented, It's time we realize that we ourselves are t he problem. Stop hating each other and try to build each other up. Whites look at us the way they do because of the things we do to each other. Dolores Stribling said you want us To take personal responsibility, then give us the same opportunity you receive. We will take personal responsibility when our education is the same, our housing is the same, our employment is the same. It is easy for someone to say take responsibility when the opportunity is there for you. All right, so lets take a look at what David had to say. White supremacy only respects two things. That's a loss of life and a loss of finance. Mm-hm, I was about to say money. You said finance. Yes, [CROSSTALK], mm-hm. Until black people threaten one of those two things, they will forever continue to do what they do. So instead of blaming an external source, Blame yourself. Because until we blame ourselves we will never change the things that are going on with our women with our own lives and with our communities. We are the problem. What do you have to say? Slayed or shade [UNKNOWN] All the heavy hitter. We all got tied. We all was [INAUDIBLE] Shade, shade, and you're on a shade. That's what I am. I'm on this and that. Shade. Nicole, you seem you have your mind made up. So why is it a shade? Because I understand what he's coming from and his comments were very intense. And there was some truth to it, but I think that he's forgetting about, no the racism didn't come from us. I mean we started with not the A full hand. We were dealt a bad card as a race, you know? We didn't get everything. So the comment that that young lady says is true. It's right. Delores. Delores is on it. Yeah. We didn't have the same opportunities. We didn't have the same education. I grew up in Texas. I didn't have the same school that the kids in the nice neighborhood had. I didn't have the same books. I learned about Texas history. I didn't learn about black history or anything like that. So yeah, we do perpetuate a bad Thing and a reality and a music, but again you gotta take it further back then where he's taking. Yeah I'm in the present but come on. All right, Shea, you're [UNKNOWN]. I'm [UNKNOWN] cuz I agree with what [LAUGH] Something. I agree with what he is saying because we do have the opportunity to change it. Right now, anything you need to know is on Google. You can learn anything that you need to know. You can Google it. It is a moment away, but I look at stories like my dad grew up in the projects of Rhode Island and he's now one of the top execs at AP. You're situation, you're environment doesn't have to tell your story for the rest of your life. True. So when I hear those opportunities, my dad Used to get beat up for carrying books home. And he made it out because he knew he wanted something more. Raise your children, it does start with us. It does start within our communities. We have to raise our children. We have to let them know that this isn't just the environment that you grew up with, and we have to make sure that they're not watching Love and Hip Hop, on Monday nights. They should be watching Disney or something. Like why is your eight year old child know who [UNKNOWN] Maria is That is a valid point. We do need to do the work. We're blaming everyone, and I don't like the word blame. I think we should improve. Improve. Yeah, I don't like the word blame. Blame, right. I'm [UNKNOWN] because I like to be That Dre little gold teeth. [LAUGH] If David [INAUDIBLE] lost about 55 [INAUDIBLE] I'd be like, David, I agree with everything you saying. You tell 'em. [LAUGH] That's bad. [INAUDIBLE] Look at that beard. Look at that beard. [INAUDIBLE] [LAUGH] [MUSIC] [LAUGH] But this is the real deal is I also taught school in Compton. Mm. But where I send my son to school was a private school. It's in Sherman Oaks. This other And they have everything. You can go swimming, you can do this and I look at how I was raised. You know I was in Cleveland Public School and then moved over to Shaker and let me tell you something it is a difference. I take the books that the kids I had to teach with in confidence. No computers. So there is a difference and I think about slavery. We talk about, we came over to this country and it's not like we have a culture like everyone else. We're talking about the Chinese, the Jews, they have a deep history. We are what? 400 years? African American. We can't sit there and talk about yeah I'm from the tribe of Uba Duba. [FOREIGN]. I mean what the heck. There's no native tongue. I put a little DNA on you. Sorry about that. It's okay. There's no native tongue. There's no culture. Right. Belive me I can't talk about oh I learned how to weave this basket. Because we're from the, we don't have that so it's about us now trying to form that but that's a lot. You want us just to change. It is a lot of work. It's a lot of work. So I want to say blame us, but we do have to work and go back to the village situation and you're going to say black lives matter, we also have to say black lives matter to us but when our brothers are out there killing each other, you're out there marching against the police, What about when you did the drive-by? Black lives matter to us too. So you have to always take responsibility or blame. We have to just go back to the way we used to be in the '60's. When we was all fighting for the same thing. Even our black families were together because we were all fighting for the same thing Yeah, same thing Now Kim, as a mother- But David, everything you said was brilliant. [INAUDIBLE] No but Kim, You're raising a son, with everything that's happening in society right now, have you had to start I know he's young but have you had to start to have some sort of conversation, or have you start to formulate in your mind what that conversation will look like, on how to carry himself, if you will, as a black man? And maybe possible situations he may encounter as a young black man?>>Yes, I'm hoping that by the time, in another ten years, things are better, but as my father raised my brothers, first of all we start with just our own protection. My son should not know. Right now he's four years old, and he came home and he said mommy, my skin hurts. What? That's because a little white girl told him his skin was ugly. So I had to go up to the school. Of course you did. And holler at them, said I need to talk to those parents. But you're dealing with another child who learned from somewhere. So I have to first, why am I teaching my 4 year old about color? So we start there. And we talk about bullying, so it's not even a black white thing or a police thing. It's just human, it's a human thing. So once we start with bullying, and then I'm gonna have to explain to them because my little brother got chased by the police. My mama looks white. She's not. I know you all said on the internet she is. The police ran to the door and my mother answered the door. There was a white woman, we lived in this certain kind of neighborhood, and he's like, there's a black, there's a negro child, cause you know it was back in 1902. But they was a negro child running through the yard, and we just went to warn you, and he's been running, and we almost got him. Well my black daddy came up behind her, and all of us, we was like, what's happening, what's happening? Who is he? Where is the negro child? You mean this one? My mom's like, oh yeah, he lives here. So we went through that all the time, but my brother's a good shot Cuz it was so yeah. He didn't know, hold it., halt. He didn't know none of that, what they said. So I think it's just, it is what it is. And just teaching, first of all, we are are supposed to obey the law. The law is here for our protection. So if someone says, hey, hold it, then you hold it. Now, some of these crazy police, I think, really okay, I'm not gonna get deep with this. But how we change the police is in the training at the cadet level. RIght from the ground up. We got to wait til the good ol' boys get out, but you got to start a different raining. Just like I look back Sean LeBert in prison. He died because they didn't give him his medicine, because the people trying to be the police. So we got a whole lot of work, it's a deeper conversation. It's a deeper conversation. So with my son I would have the conversation but I got to have some brothers around my son. Some black men to talk to my son. I"m a woman.>>It's a different type of>>they talk. They got a whole different kind of conversation. You ever sit back and listen to men talk. It sound like Spanish, don't it?>>I go to the barbershop each week, trust me. I know.

David Banner's 'Blame Yourself' Comments Spark Conversation

Our #SlayedorShade panel weighs in on David Banner's recent comments saying that Black people have to blame themselves for their current situation and the coversation it's sparked.