Boris Kodjoe & Nicole Ari Parker Play 'He Said, She Said' Game

Boris Kodjoe and Nicole Ari Parker open up about the beginnings of their love, their beautiful family and what an amazing father Boris is.

ESSENCE.COM Jun, 18, 2015
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[MUSIC] Oh my gosh, you wanna go back to the Soul Food days. 15 years ago. Table read, Soul Food the series, episode one, season one. Halfway through the read through, in walks Boris Kodjoe. cojo and everybody dies like on the floor dead. I felt like a fish out of water. It was my first big TV job. I got a motel really. I wanted like you know Marlon Brando to walk in, Denzel, somebody. I gave him a little bit of ha- Hard time in the beginning. So she really welcomed me with open arms. We spend a lot of time together and I knew right away that there was something special about him. Everything about here is beautiful. So it wasn't hard to fall in love with her. I'll never forget one day he opened the door to my trailer and I Looked at him, I was like what's going on. He said you know we're gonna be married with kids one day, right. I'm just letting you know. And shut the door. And I was just like yeah, I do. I do know that. 2004 we got engaged, 2005 we were married. First child. [UNKNOWN] is the best father. In the world. I'm a veteran. Two deep, you know. The first time was really tough. 36 hour labor. I think men just don't understand just how much pain you are in. Especially if I were trying to be natural and not have the epidural. I got an epidural. [INAUDIBLE] I was asking God why does it have to hurt. It was a come to Jesus moment. He was just trying to be there for me. It was just like in the movies, like baby, it's gonna be okay. No, it's not! Only passed out twice. Which is a record so I got it like that. You know. You know, a lot of women don't want to leave their kids with their daddy, you know, like with their daddy, he can't do the hair, he can't make the pancakes, he can't do anything. But Boris does everything. I'm sure if it had to do with the fact that I didn't have a father, as I was growing up, but I always knew that I wanted to be a great dad, and I was always looking forward to that. Now I'm gonna say this to the brothers out there, especially if you have a daughter It doesn't take a lot. Just be present and keep your word. I'm active. I do stuff. I do everything with my kids. I'm at every recital and every basketball game. He's present. He's kind. He's patient. He's hands on. I now have the privilege of guiding them and engaging with them and teaching them and watching them grow. Of course, he didn't get the part, right. And sometimes there's no lotion. And to hold your child and to look into your child's face and eyes and And first have that real contact is just overwhelming. It's amazing. It's the day I became a man. I'm in awe. I have no idea what to get him for Fathers' Day. In fact, I would need some suggestions. He deserves a country, a small country. That's what he deserves and I don't know where to get one. [LAUGH]