For our third segment of “What’s Going On Down There,” we ask Dr. Hutcherson about the mechanics aspects of our vehicles of pleasure to ensure that everything runs smoothly. Let’s talk about sex.
A Slippery Slope
Not getting the um… hydration you want? The types of medication you take, like certain birth control pills and anti-histamines can affect the mucus membranes in your vagina, Dr. Hutcherson says. Also, menopause is a factor, but taking medication that replaces the estrogen in your body should help make it rain.
The most common reason you experience dryness downstairs is lack of foreplay, she points out. “Men, especially young men, think they get an erection and you must be ready. They don’t realize that for women it takes time to lubricate.” Dr. Hutcherson recommends looking at some erotica or having a naughty phone conversation with your love before meeting up to get things flowing.
You’ve Lost that Loving Feeling
Remember when you first met your man, every kiss and touch would make your whole body scream? Now it takes a little more time to get things on and popping. You can blame those pesky hormones for that. “Early in a relationship, you are producing a lot of chemicals and hormones that make [sex] very exciting with this new person. But after you’ve been with them for a while those chemicals start to decrease, and you don’t get turned on as easily,” Dr. Hutcherson says. Trick those hormones by spicing things up with a new toy, or some sexy lingerie.
The vagina of a woman who has never given birth is only 3 inches long, according to NetDoctor. Once you’ve had kids it only grows to about 4 inches long. However, if an object (like a penis) is introduced to the vagina slowly, it can grow by 150 or 200 percent to accommodate. Tell your guy to slow it down for a fuller experience.
What We Know About the O
Often you can feel like the odd woman out if you’re not reaching orgasm during intercourse. The truth is, you’re with the majority. “Women have to realize that most women don’t experience orgasm during intercourse,” Dr. Hutcherson says. Moreover, an orgasm via the G spot is no more special than an orgasm via the clitoris. “Most women experience it through clitoral stimulation,” Dr. Hutcherson points out. And just for reinforcement, “An orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm,” she stresses.
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