Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Keeping It Real Dear Steve: My recently divorced 43-year-old ex-husband of 20 years and 9 kids by 6 baby mamas, and 4 marriages, who’s been treated for non life-threatening STDs at least 3 to 4 times and clean now (so I’m told), said he refuses to wear a hat (condom), despite the high risk of HIV and pregnancy because it interferes with the feeling/intimacy and the spermicide burns, which affects performance. He says a lot of men feel this way and won’t use condoms. He wants to have sex to rekindle the love and spark because we know each other and have been married before, no children with us. What should I do? Is this a real problem for men or a player’s game? To submit your own letter to Strawberry Letter, click here. For more information on Steve Harvey Comedy tour dates, click here. For more Strawberry Letters at ESSENCE.com, click here.