Steve Harvey Morning Show's Daily Strawberry Letter

Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: About to cheat on my husband Hello Shirley and Steve, Well my husband and I moved to a new town about five years ago for his job. Since then we both have been layed off work. That was about two years ago. We had to start all over. He went from making $98.000 a year to $30.000 a year. Now we are both back in school full time and we work full time. He is 51 years old and I’m 44. This is the second marriage for both of us. The problems is we don’t have sex anymore. Maybe we will once every three months. I have talked to him about this over and over. He says he does not have time anymore. He always tired and school is kicking his ass. I just asked for one night — Saturday — but he spent that night out drinking with his boys. He said he needs some “me time” and that I should get a life. Well i did get a life. I met a man I like and I want to have sex with him. I don’t think my husband it cheating on me. I check his phone. He is home every night on time and is working and going school everyday. Even on Saturday nights, he is only out from 4:00 to 10:00 p.m. It has been four months since we have had sex. We don’t spend anytime together anymore. We used to do everything together and we both worked 9-5 then too. Now I work every weekend and I don’t get off work ’til 9:00 every night. We have had to change our whole lifestyle because of money. He says I don’t understand how hard it is for him and I feel like we are moving backward. The money problems are getting to both of us, but can that stop him from wanting sex? I just want my husband back and I want good sex. Is that to much to ask for. Please help.

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