Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: In love with a married man Dear friends, I am a in desperate need of a cold bucket of water to throw on my face. I am in a 4-year-long relationship with a married man who has two children in high school. The first two years of our relationship were pretty rocky and miserable. He would lie about being with his wife, date nights, parties and show up at my house after 1 am in the morning. I admit being weak and I would let him in. I spent Holidays and birthdays alone. He is very controlling and makes it too difficult for me to take vacations to visit friends and family because he is so jelous. So I don’t go anywhere. I am a business executive with a Master’s degree but I can not break it off with him! So many times we have fought and I’ve left and so many times I go back. I feel trapped and tired. I feel like my life is passing me by. His wife has a boyfriend now and they have told the kids that they are separating, but both she and he see no problem with seeing others while living together and raising their kids. All the while I feel like a pawn in their love/hate relationship. I don’t think either one of them will leave. I must move on, but seem frozen. It’s just ridiculous. He says I will be his next wife, but when? How can I get out? Thank you in advance for your brutal response. I need it!
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