Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: In need of some lovin’ Dear Morning Crew, I am a loving husband of ten years to a beautiful woman and a father to three of the best daughters any man could ask for! I love my family to death and will do anything for my ladies. There is just one area that I’m frustrated — sex! For some reason, my wife is a dry well and I cannot figure this thing out! Now I know many women would want to label me as insensitive, but I ask that you hear this brother out. First off, I strongly believe marriage is give and take. My wife gets the world! She gets plenty of spiritual, social, and emotional intimacy from me. I know that communication and finances lead the race to divorce, so we talk all the time and our needs are met. I make more than enough money to take care of our household after tithes, so anything she makes is for savings and leisure. I even uprooted my career and relocated to support her in going after her dream job, which she has. Our girls are young and energetic, but mommy says she’s tired. So daddy does all the activities with them, takes them everywhere so mom has a break, shows them how a man is suppose to treat a lady and make sure that they know they are the jewels of my eye! They are all daddy’s girls! When it comes to the wife, she’s my queen and she knows it! I rub her when she asks, listen to her thoughts and stay up to hold her at night. I keep up with all of this and try to cover all the things she feels she is missing, but she’s not taking care of me! I’m very simple and I’m not needy, but when it comes to pleasing me, I feel that’s her department! I don’t believe in looking in the streets for satisfaction, nor do I think she would appreciate it! I bring mine to the storehouse! I’m a three-times-a-week kinda guy, but I’m only getting it on average, once every six weeks! I’d say I’m fairly attractive — I get hit on all the time! The enemy is always lurking. We’ve had the talks but it doesn’t change. She always says, “If you love me then it shouldn’t matter. What are you going to do when we’re 65?” I get it, but I’m only 30 and she’s 28. We’re healthy, safe and above all, have God’s blessing! I don’t want to reach my breaking point, but I’m really close! Please help because I really do want my marriage!
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