Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: He left us for a new family Dear Morning Crew, How do you keep from being a bitter black woman? I was married for seven years. I believe that marriage is a learning experience and you grow together. We both made our mistakes, but I thought that staying, despite my husband having a child outside of the marriage that is the same age as our daughter, and going to a thousand counseling sessions, that we were getting better. I was so caught up in keeping him, I didn’t realize that not only was he cheating me out of time and love, but our four kids as well. I made excuses for me having to play both roles because he is in the military. He married a week after our divorce and tricked me in court pretending that he was single and that he wanted to be a better father, which I so much desired for my four children, especially my boys. He now has three stepsons and prides himself in being a good stepfather. I don’t get it, because he is not being a father to his own kids. He lives in Germany, so that’s his excuse about not being involved. I wanted to get to know the kids’ stepmom at first but she thinks I still want him. I just wanted to be co-parents. Yes I’m hurt, because of our divorce, but a man or woman comes and goes and our kids are a lifetime. I just want him to love them the way I love them. They are amazing. I want to share little things they do with him and I want my kids to be apart of his family. Our kids are seven, six, four and three. How does a man all of sudden fall in love with someone’s kids when he doesn’t even know his own?
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