Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Paternity test problem Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your advice. Nearly four years ago I cheated on my boyfriend once with my ex. I only cheated because every man I have loved has always cheated on me and lied to me about it even though I was always the faithful, honest one in the relationship. So basically I got fed up and I had already decided that the next man who did that to me I was going to cheat back. Big mistake! I found out that I was pregnant after I did my “revenge cheating” and now my son is almost three years old. My ex is in the military, but now he is married to a White girl and they have a newborn baby. I recently contacted my ex and requested that we take a DNA paternity test to find out if he is the father of my son. He refused, but when he was overseas for over a year we communicated online regularly. He never told me that he is married now and has a new baby. I found out because I went to his MySpace page. I asked him about it three times before he finally told me. He lives down south and I live in NY. What should I do? I need to know the truth. Is my ex the father of my son? Legally, what are my options?  
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